So before I get into this I should preface by saying that my boyfriend is wonderful and puts up with a lot of crazy stuff. We've gone through so many fetishes in the year or so that I've known him it's ridiculous, and he's generally very supportive. That said, he's having a very hard time adjusting to my fondness (as well as need) for diapers.
I've gotten him to participate in some ageplay with me, but even that sometimes makes him uncomfortable, especially anything involving an implied incestuous role. When I asked him why he hates diapers so much, he told me it's because he can't associate them with anything but real babies, and even though he knows it's roleplay, he feels like a pedophile. He said this fear is exaggerated by the fact that he's over a foot taller than me, 2 years older, and has a beard, while I still get mistaken for an extremely young teenager and people on the street ask if I'm his little sister.
The unfortunate thing is that I don't just like diapers, I need to wear them at night, and probably should during the day due to small accidents. I avoid wearing as much as possible, but when he tells me that diapers are disgusting it makes me feel like he thinks I'm disgusting. He told me that if I wore one around him he wouldn't come near me. I've tried explaining the extent of my incontinence issues to him but he generally avoids the subject. He said maybe someday he'd baby me in diapers but to me that essentially means "Never, please stop talking about it."
I'm going to try to address it with him later tonight. Hopefully I can explain both the psychological and physical reasons behind my wearing and why it means so much to me that he try to accept it. I have a bad feeling it will just be awkward.
Does anyone have any advice? Have you had similar experiences? Sorry for the long post, I just kind of needed to get this out and I don't have anyone else to tell. Any comments would be appreciated.