we are reposting from the greetings forum to hopefully hear some more experiences on how to live together while not sharing the fetish.
I am writing this together with my girlfriend. I would label myself as a diaper lover, meaning I am only into the diaper side of the fetish and my girlfriend is not. I like the feeling of wearing a diaper, I cannot exactly explain why, since I have liked it as long as I remember. I get aroused by wetting the diaper, so I also masturbate wearing them. I dont feel like a kid, but I makes me secure and safe in some way. So my desire is kind of split between the nice safe/secure feeling and more importantly my sexual attraction to wearing diapers.
My fetish has always been a part of me, however, it is not the biggest part of my life. I get the desire ones in a while, and a couple of times each month I will use diapers. I know that my fetish can be very imposing on others, and the last thing that I want is for my girlfriend to feel uncomfortable, since that would make me feel bad and uncomfortable with the situation myself. I dont have any specific expectations on how to make it work living together, I just know that I ones in a while will need some time with my fetish.
We have been dating for over 18 months and we both want to live together in the near future but we are not sure how to make it work in practice as we do not share the fetish. We have tried to talk it over during the past 6-12 months without reaching any conclusion. We both want to be very understanding, but it is difficult to set the personal boundaries of how it might work in practice.
We both agree that we have a fantastic sex life, but my rather 'extreme' fetish has made it a bit more difficult to talk about our mutual sexual desires.
Therefore, we are wondering if anyone wants to share their practical experience on the matter? We have red all the gloom and doom stories and since we want to work it out we are interested in hearing some more positive stories of couples' experiences and would be much appreciated.
The Girlfriend: I found out about his fetish by "accident" which means that instead of him telling me I found a wet diaper in his bed one night which was quite a chock to me, since I have never really considered diapers to be sexually and as I do not have any fetishes myself. So it has taken some getting use to the thought of my boyfriend having this desire. My difficulty, you could say, with the fetish is that it is not something that I feel like being part of as I only relate diapers to babies/children, which is why using them sexually would be crossing my boundaries. Moreover, I have to say that I am also afraid that watching my boyfriend in action with his fetish, would change the way I perceive him - as a man - and that would make me very sad. Right now I am at a stage where I feel like I want to and can accept him having the fetish and having it to himself - my only fear is that if I do not engage in it at some point (which I cannot see my self do) he might seek to live out his fantasy with other people. - if anyone has some thoughts/experience about this, it will be much appreciated!