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Thread: Why are there more Men AB/DLs than Women?

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    Default Why are there more Men AB/DLs than Women?

    I almost posted this in the thread about what to do to make *B/DLism more socially acceptable, since that thread was a little off topic, but I decided this deserved its own thread.

    I have a theory as to why there are more males than females who like the feeling of diapers. Tell me if you think I'm nuts or maybe onto something. I'll be especially interested to hear from the females in our midst.

    Here is my theory:

    I think it's mostly because of the physical difference in our bodies, but compounded by our general emotional make up. Let me explain.

    For men it's a much more physical experience. In other words, even if it's not sexual, for a male, the diaper is in direct contact and even rubbing against some of the most sensitive parts of his body for nearly the entire time he is wearing one. This just adds to a male's natural tendency to react more to and be stimulated more by actual physical feelings (i.e. taste, touch, sight, smell, hearing). This is also the reason so many more men like watching porn then women. It's stimulating his sight sense.

    For a woman it's different. It's nice and comfortable, but the softness and gentleness just isn't as noticeable because her most sensitive parts are INSIDE her body. For her, because of her natural tendency to be more emotional, it's more about the emotions and feelings that go along with the wearing of the diaper. This is also why when it comes to sex, women like to have the whole experience (i.e. candlelight dinner, walk on the beach, etc. to get in the mood), where a man would usually rather just jump in the sack.

    This is also why, in my estimation, there appears to be very few women who are only DLs. Most women into diapers are both ABs and DLs, because being AB is all about the emotional side, not just the physical feeling of the diaper.

    So what do you all think? I am nuts or does this make sense?

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    I can totally see where you see that! I'm sure that has to do with something like that.

    I think it also has to do upbringing.

    my boyfriend was kind of raised to grow up fast and be a man. So for him,while diapers are sexual in some way, it's a way for him to kind of get what he didn't get to really cherish as a kid. So he likes to relax in diapers and do babyish things because he didn't really get to do that all too much as a kid.

    So I totally agree with your idea but I believe upbringing could be another factor on how there are more men than women. Women (or girls?) get to be childish for a bit longer (I believe) while boys are told to 'grow up' and be men.


    All and all,you are not nuts I totally agree with you.

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    The physical experience theory is quite sound. The concentration of nerve endings in the penis and scrotum is higher than anywhere else in the male body (almost certainly an evolutionary adaptation to give us an incentive to protect our reproductive organs), so diaper-wearing would naturally be a far more sensual experience for men.

    However, I think that it also results from a difference in upbringing. For all that females mature faster, males are under greater social pressure to do so. Boys are obliged to leave behind the things that comfort them long before girls are, so it is not all that surprising that they might feel a greater desire to return to an experience that they believe they got short-changed on.

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    If I had to explain it to someone, that's pretty much what I'd say, so... I think you've hit the nail on the head BabyJessi

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    BBallBoy

    Default I agree

    sounds pretty close...but I dont buy the Deeker thing where girls shouldnt participate just because of the difference in anatomy...that's ridiculous!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ninikins View Post
    I can totally see where you see that! I'm sure that has to do with something like that...

    ....So I totally agree with your idea but I believe upbringing could be another factor on how there are more men than women. Women (or girls?) get to be childish for a bit longer (I believe) while boys are told to 'grow up' and be men.


    All and all,you are not nuts I totally agree with you.


    Quote Originally Posted by Akastus View Post
    However, I think that it also results from a difference in upbringing. For all that females mature faster, males are under greater social pressure to do so. Boys are obliged to leave behind the things that comfort them long before girls are, so it is not all that surprising that they might feel a greater desire to return to an experience that they believe they got short-changed on.
    Yes... upbringing definitely has a lot to do with it. I am in total agreement with that, because I came from a similar situation as your boyfriend Ninikins. I also have stated in another thread, almost word for word what you said about girls be allowed to be more babyish for longer. We were talking about childish prints on shirts in that thread. How there are lots of adult women's shirts with Tinker Bell, etc, but you'll never catch an adult men's shirt with cars, toy story, etc.

    Back on topic...
    But, what I am finding is that upbringing seems to have a lot more to do with it when it comes to ABs than it does with those who are just DLs, for both men and women. It's a lot deeper, emotional thing for ABs. Also, it seems most ABs have known they were different since they were very, very young (for instance, I can remember in kindergarten wanting to wear diapers and be babyish, but not knowing why), but most DLs don't realize their feelings until late childhood or teen years when they have some sensual event in their life (i.e. late diapering for bedwetting, watching a sibling or friend diapered, etc.) that brings them out.



    Quote Originally Posted by RocketJet View Post
    sounds pretty close...but I dont buy the Deeker thing where girls shouldnt participate just because of the difference in anatomy...that's ridiculous!
    I didn't say girls shouldn't participate... I said it's the reason most don't want too. They don't get the sensual feelings that males do, so unless they had a childhood event or something in their upbringing where it's become more emotional for them, they won't want too. They just won't have the urge. It's not a D****r thing at all... it's just a physical fact... and by the way, I am totally hetero, if you're wondering (not that it matters), so no, it's not like that!

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    BBallBoy

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    I nvr meant to suggest that you suggested that...I was just trying to clarify what I was thinking

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    Maybe there aren't more males than females, many females may be driven away from online communities by the way some people act. There is also the fact that from what I have seen men are more likely to go to the Internet for support, while females would just talk to a friend. I doubt it's something physical, but it could have something to do with social pressures.

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    Very true on the women being driven away from communitiies because of the vast group of idiots who classify in my regards as horny net geeks looking for fap material and those who have no respect for the person they're talking to. I know a few AB girls that don't partcipate online because of that problem. How would you feel, getting an IM or something asking quesitons that would just creep you out? No wonder a lot of AB girls don't participate online as much as guys do.

    And yeah, I have gotten some horny net geek messages about my diapers from gay guys who don't get the message that I am not gay or bisexual. It's not fun so I can understand why AB girls tend to hide online and not participate.

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    I think it's a combination of factors but it seems as though it all evolves around personal experience. Maybe it's that more guys are aware of their fetish and that a lot of women have yet to discover it. Think of all the women who become AB/DL after being introduced to the fetish by another person.

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