As many of you may know, I made some critical remarks on transpeople representing in the ABDL community in the following thread:
Well, I thought hard about my opinions, and I realized that I may have some negative feelings towards transgendered individuals.
Before I go any further, I want to say I don't hate transpeople. I don't wish anything bad upon them, and I only hope the best for them. I think they should have the same rights and freedom as everyone else. They are people who deserve the right to pursue life, liberty, and happiness.
By "negative feelings" I just mean I think I would have a difficult time accepting a transperson as a friend. I don't think I could look at a transperson and see them as "just another person". The transgendered thing would just stick out at me.
I think the thing that really bugs me is that they commit to their lifestyle 24/7. I'm not talking about the person who likes to dress up outside their gender every now and then. I'm talking about the person who literally gets surgery to alter their body. As a comparison, I wear diapers, but I only wear a few times a week at most. I would not want to be incontinent or give up using the toilet forever. Full time would be excessive.
I'm trying to look at the issue from their point of view. I could imagine the positive aspects of living life as a woman (getting all dolled up, feeling pretty, etc.). Hell, if I could trade my penis for a vagina for a day, I might just try it out of curiosity. But to make a full on commitment seems overly perverted and bizarre to me. I for one love my penis, and I would never want to give it up permanently. If I had to choose between my penis and an arm, I would have a difficult time deciding.
I'm assuming that most transpeople are male to female (I don't think I have ever met a female to male), and whenever I meet one I just get grossed out. A "woman" with obvious features of a man with a deep voice, I can't help but feel disgusted. It feels very out of place.
One reason I could feel this way is due to my lack of experience with homosexuals/transgendered. There are no homosexuals, let alone transpeople, in my immediate family. I've had some gay friends, but I didn't know they were gay until they told me. With transpeople though, it's like they have it constantly stamped on their forehead. I can forget the fact that someone is gay; I have a harder time forgetting that someone is transgendered.
The reason I'm posting this is to hopefully learn to accept transgendered people. They are people just like everyone else and I feel guilty holding this stereotype. The only other real stereotype I hold true is against obese people, but that's a whole different issue, one I don't want to tackle right now.
I don't know, maybe I just need to pull my own head out of my ass and grow up and accept different people. What do you guys think?