I'm having some problems here. One of my friends, we'll call her Ali, comes from an extremely dysfunctional family. Her parents are divorced. Her Mom is a whore--every kid in that family has a different father, and none of these fathers were married to their Mom. Her Dad is an ass--he's extremely sarcastic, he's overbearing, and he's always dragging down on her. She's always arguing with her sister, mostly in part because her sister is incredibly immature and obviously didn't receive the attention she needed when she was little.
Currently she lives with her Mom and visits her Dad every other weekend. In this house, this small two floor rental house, her Mom, her sister, and her Mom's friend as well as her Mom's friend's two children under the age of five live in this house, with another on the way. So, a total of five people, six if you count the unborn baby. It's generally crowded, but Ali is always taking care of the children because both of the adults in the house are too damn lazy to get off their asses and do anything. So on top of her working full time, she takes care of all the kids, which includes cooking and cleaning.
A while back in March, she was severely depressed and started cutting. The only reason she stopped was because her boyfriend at the time (who has long since dumped her) convinced her that it was stupid. However, her depression (not clinically diagnosed) has continued on. She's now dating a 26 year old who has herpes and a child, and she insists he's 'the one' even though she insisted that her previous boyfriend was 'the one'. However, before this, she was having sex with whoever she could get her hands on.
This isn't all that's wrong, but long story short, she's headed down an extremely destructive path and is expecting me to help her. However, the help she needs is at a professional level, and though I have experience in the area, I am far from a professional and there's no way I can be the help she needs.
The last two texts she sent me were as follows (translated from text lingo):
"I just feel like my life is falling to pieces and I'm just afraid to make people angry because I don't want to lose anybody because I think it would push me over the edge. I'm just scared because I'm working all the time and I have the kids and I don't have time for anybody and I'm just scared that people will misinterpret it and push me away and I hate being afraid of rejection but I always have been and now it scares me even more."
I want to suggest that she get help, but I'm not sure how I can because last time I did, she freaked out on me. However, I don't want to be stuck in the situation where she's always dragging on me with texts like that, because I myself have recently recovered from depression and I really, REALLY, do not need to head down that road again.
So, does anyone have any ideas of what I could do?
P.S. I haven't responded to those texts yet either. Anyone have any idea how I should reply? I don't know what to say.