Recently I got myself into a bit of a sticky situation which might involve the loss of my marriage but I wanted to be able to ask you people here a few things. What do you think of adult baby/adult children and actual real life children. Can they be combined? Can they actually work out?
I told my wife's daughter (who's my age actually) that I was worried about what would happen when her daughter got older and whether or not I would be the right kind of person to have any kind of influence on her life or not. Why does this scare me so much? Because my father embarrassed me so often when I was a kid. I personally believe that he is an adult child himself as he is always interested in playing games..stupid games like lets jump off the elevator together or beat you to the playground. This I found rather embarrassing as a child and even more as a teenager. I tried to talk to him and tried to get him to be able to talk to me more like an adult but it seemed like most of the time he either couldn't or wouldn't.
I had to learn which moods I could come and talk to him in and which moods he would just say something stupid or childish. I had to learn when I could be near him and when it was dangerous to, when he would push me away - literally.
I was scared that as an adult child myself that I could do this kind of thing to another little girl and that I would therefore be a danger to her and I didn't want to be. But after talking to a few friends about it they tell me that because I have witnessed this behaviour in my father and because I realise that I am an adult child myself I should have more control over my behaviour then he ever had. That by being open and honest with my partner I should be able to make sure this problem never arises. Tell me your honest opinion about this as I would love to know.