I'm leaving adisc. Not because I don't like it here but because don't think this is the right place for me after all. I'll try to explain this, so the members who befriended me know why I left.
I came here (and on a similar Dutch forum) because I thought that the incontinence support an abdl communities could benefit much more from one another. I think that the abdl community had created possibilities for ic folk that had otherwise not happened.
Unfortunately, I'm sometimes hopelessly naive. In this case I didn't realise how strong the sexual feelings/emotions are that some dl folk can have. I noticed over the past few days that my tendency to bring up issues that are to me very light hearted and definitely not sexual in nature DID in fact stir strong feelings in some guys that I had not anticipated. In one case this was reason to doubt my intentions, and that really gave me a nasty shock, not in the last place because I can all too well imagine that. I've been there before: just in very different situations.*I'm just not aware of the sexual feelings that I can stir up by what I consider completely neutral.*
I realise these things only when it's too late.**Because I really have a hard time imagining these sorts of feelings beforehand, there is no guarantee that this wont happen time and again. And I don't want that. I don't want others to feel bad because of something that I did.
Therefore I think it's best that I leave altogether. I'm sorry about it. I don't know what else I can do.
Thanks and all the best,