Why would someone keep AB/DL/Babyfur/whatever stuff a secret from his/her partner? I'm not talking about the first few weeks though.... I mean after you've known each other for quite a while. What if you end up moving in together? (that kinda also gives you an idea of how far along I mean) Abandon your desires and pretend they don't exist? Why would you even wanna be with someone that can't accept you? And aren't such secrets usually bad for relationships? I don't understand it.
I'm not in such a situation and I hope I never am. I don't want to be with someone who isn't going to accept me. I mean, I'm sure it's hard to bring the subject up, I did once before, but to never tell? It just doesn't seem like a good idea.