This has come up for me a many times in the past and more recently when I was talking to a Ab/dl friend the other day, and they where saying how all they wanted to do was be supported and where willing to move almost anywhere ( even internationally)if someone would just care for them despite the risks.
This has not quite been a trend but something that's very common in the community that a lot of ab's or tb's are very much all take and no give. I had a relationship in the past where my partner helped me with some ad activities and even then I felt selfish almost and when out of my way to try and balance it.
While i feel that being an ab is mostly harmless it seems to not be emotionally damaging but put a lot of strain on relationships or that just to many abs are unwilling to give back.
lol im not even sure what this post is about entirely but its something that has been bouncing around my head a while and i just wanted to get out.