I'm glad that I finally registered here. To be honest: I'm a bit nervous about it. That's because it's a first time for me; and I'm not such a group person anyhow. But this seems like a good and respectful place, so here goes
I'm a bit of a geek girl. I work as a webdesigner / webmaster, trying to extend that a bit to the programming side. I'm a lesbian, so the stereotype probably puts me in the "butch" category - ie. I rather shop for hardware than for clothing and I play soccer in a girl's team. But I also have my girly sides.
I'm in a relationship. Have been for years, and hope to keep it like that.
I want to exchange / learn more about what options there are to manage my sleep-wetting: I've got a form of nocturnal enuresis.
I'm here in particular because I've grown a bit tired of how people and professionals deal with incontinence.
Maybe this is because I have never known anything else, but what has always bothered me most is how it is approached as a shameful disease that should be dealt with in an above all "discrete" fashion.
I have always found it odd that the fact that I have to wear some form of protection because my body disposes some fluids for a week every month is considered nothing to be ashamed of; but the fact that I have to wear a similar (though larger) form of protection because my body also happens to dispose some other fluids at night must be hidden, secret and felt awkward about.
Before I registered here I asked myself if I enjoy wearing diapers. It seems like a pretty easy question. Only, it isn't. The more I think about it, the less clear it gets. As I mentioned, I have never known any different than that I wet in my sleep. Not every night, but often enough. As a child, before my parents started to worry for real, I was really carefree about the whole thing. The years thereafter were not so carefree, until it was accepted that there was no easy solution. After that it became less of an issue, but I have always disliked the sort of disposable diapers that I had. They were not as good as the cotton ones that I had as a child, so that required additional fumbling with mattress covers and god knows what.
I definitely did not like that.
The last two years or so I have tried to figure out if I could find something better. Not only in the sense of functional, but also something that I would feel at least neutral about. Or maybe enjoy wearing even, because it's comfy.
I was surprised to see how many AB/DL's there are, and they - you - seem to have caused the incontinence market to create more "fun" things than the discreet-as-possible, *invisible* disposable "brief" (because heaven forbid that they call it a "diaper"). So because I'm stuck to wearing them anyhow, I hope that eventually I'll find my way back to enjoying wearing them.
I don't think that there is a sexual side to it for me. It's more like "feeling safe" - that it won't leak or shift or otherwise fail me, but also maybe in a psychological sense.
Anyhow, thanks for listening