In response to a recent posting in this forum about a "telling one's wife went bad" I had some thoughts about the experience of ABs as compared to DLs in the partnership aspects of our sexuality. Is it harder for DLs than ABs to share our desires?
My sense is that DLs really seem to perceive this as a fetish whereas ABs as less strictly object oriented. It appears that incorporating one's ABism would be easier since one could avoid "diaper" stuff and focus more on shared aspects of ageplay such as bath time, toys and games, breastfeeding, caressing and tickling, rather than just wearing a diaper as an adjunct to sex. While a partner willing to play mommy or daddy isn't exactly easy to find, the role is expansive enough to avoid some of the yuckier aspects of ABDLhood, and the loving care exhibited on both sides (baby and mommy/daddy) reflects and patterns of affectionate love experienced in both purely adult relationships and child/adult relationships.
Not that we have it "easy" or anything.
It really makes one wonder what is the different etiology of our respective sexualities. How does one gain an attraction for all aspects of baby life versus just the diaper? Any theories?