Not long after I first found the internet in the mid '90s and realized that I wasn't alone and that I wasn't some sort of freak, I found a psychologist type article about how 'they' thought most of us had our tendencies begin. First, it said that something like 80 or 90% of ABs (they didn't mention TBs, but I don't think they even thought of those back then) are male, and second that they fit generally into one of two categories.
#1 - They're the oldest in the family and pushed by parents to grow up before they are ready in order to make room for younger siblings who need the extra attention. (This category can also include someone who has much older siblings but there is a large age gap between and then has closer younger siblings like above).
#2 - They are the youngest in the family and Mom (and/or Dad) isn't ready to let their last baby grow up and so babies them longer than they should. I suppose this could be a little bit older sibling as well if the younger sibling just naturally seemed more grown up so Mom or Dad decided to baby the older one.
I'm just curious about how accurate this is, if at all. So without being too personal and without using names, I would like to do sort of an informal poll of us. Of course I will tell you my story first.
The first time I read it, I was thinking I could have written it myself! #1 fits me almost perfectly. The following story is the basic steps that I think led to me being who I am. First, my parents were just kids themselves (19 & 20). Second, I had surgery and nearly died at about 6wks. I only mention these two things because as should be obvious, they led to extra worry, attention, and babying on me. That is until I got over the surgery and my sister was born when I was barely over 15mos old. Second, my Mom says I started waking up with dry diapers at 9 months! This led to her potty training me ASAP, which was at or just before the time my sister was born. Then of course my sister was born and not only was she a baby, but she was a GIRL. This led to ALL the attention on her, and suddenly almost NONE on me. Mom tells me I used to try all kinds of things to get her attention when she'd sit down to try to breastfeed my sister... and when my brother was born 16mos after my sister, I tried to get her to join me in my antics to distract Mom when Mom was with my brother. I'm talking like doing things I knew were wrong, like sticking things in electrical outlets, etc. Things I KNEW would get her attention on me! I think my AB thoughts must have started when my little toddler mind was trying to figure out why in the world my siblings are getting all of MY attention. I think the only difference I could see between them and me is that they were babies and had diapers and breastfeeding and therefore Mommy. Which meant I wanted those things. I can remember in Kindergarten and before wanting to try on diapers to see what they felt like. Then in the summer after Kindergarten youngest sister was born. I was 6, my sister almost 5 and my brother, 3 and half. I have memories all through my childhood of wanting to wear diapers, but never having the courage to talk about it. My brother did catch me once when I was around 11 or so and he was 8, with a pair of plastic pants on under my clothes, but he just laughed at me. By the time I hit puberty it was so engrained I think it was just natural that it became a sexual fetish as well, but as you can see, for me, it's way deeper than that. Anyway that's my story. Do you fit into either category or none at all?
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BTW, I don't expect everyone to lay out their entire story like I did, but a vote for 1, 2, or other would help us decide if the good doctor's theory holds any water.