so before anyone feels the need to flag this let me throw out some background info leading up to my question.my names scott i am 19 and i am gay have ben out sence i was 15.last week i went out of town with my sponcer to a social distortion show,on the way back after the show my sponcer brought up a the topic of my being very homophobic.im confused,how the hell can i be both?there is a all night diner i hangout at alot for the coffee,i was out there the other day and a very flameing gay black guy walked by and i herd 2 guys at the next table say something smug and offencive.i wanted to smack the crap outa the guy that sead it but i was thinking the same damn thing! my question is what can i do about it? it is a deep rooted hatered intertwined with self esteem,substance abuse and a bitterness that words cant describe. i have tried to open up and talk to people, have tried therapy,have tried to meet more gay people but it just reinforces my hatered. anyone have any ideas or experience on the subject? thanks-scott.