I'll start this out by letting you know just a little about me. I'm an AB and love wearing diapers. Wearing diapers at work always seemed like a bad idea, but I'm starting to warm up to it. Bedwetting has always fascinated me and I'd really like to become on. Unfortunately, it's been on a rare occasion that I've actually wet the bed and not remembering. Next, I'm trying to eat healthier and lose a little weight - I've been in large diapers far too long. Finally, because I'm an AB all the time at home, I tend to procrastinate when it comes to doing things like cleaning, bills, etc. I'd much rather be doing things like, like playing games and watching TV. Unfortunately, I live alone, so I need to do some adult things, even though I don't want to.
In an effort to address each of the points above, I've devised a daily list that encompasses each of those items. This takes he form of a calendar. Each day I accomplish something from the list, I earn a star sticker that I get to put on a monthly calendar. At most I can earn five stars a day - one from each of the following:
- Wearing diapers all day (which is usually only on weekends)
- Wetting the bed at night (for reasons stated above)
- Eating healthy all day
- Doing all my daily chores (like bills, dishes, exercising)
- Completing a milestone (lose x amount of weight) or finishing something on my To Do list (shampoo the carpets, clean out garage etc.)
Each star I earn gets put on my calendar, which is on my fridge. I wanted something visual that I could quickly check my progress on. I find that I get really happy when I put stickers on it. Also, the calendar, stickers, and chores help reinforce that I really am just a big kid. If you're wondering, I have five different colored stars. So i know exactly what I did and did not do each day.
I've been doing this for a few weeks now with mixed results. I normally get between one and three stars a day. I'm eating better, doing more chores, exercising, cleaning when I should, but I don't think I'm doing enough. At a minimum, I want to get two stars a day. Looking at my list, two stars should be easy - eating healthy and doing chores should be a snap. The problem is, sometimes I get lazy and not even stars are enough to motivate me.
That's where I'm looking for some help. I want to maintain two stars a day. So I thought the best way to increase the stars I get each day is by giving myself rewards at the end of each month.
For example, there are 31 days in May. My goal is to get 62 stars for May. That's the break even point and I shouldn't get anything for doing the minimum. If I averaged three stars a day, I'd reward myself with something like buying a new onsie or footed sleeper. Four stars a day, or 124 for May, would result in something even better.
In the same vein as rewards, if I fall below two stars a day for the month, there should be some repercussions. If I fall below one star a month, there should be even worse consequences. The consequences and rewards should give me something to look forward to (or not look forward to) and help keep me motivated.
I've thought of a couple ideas for rewards, but they're things I'll probably do or get anyway. On the other side of things, I'm at a total loss when it comes to the consequences of not getting two stars a day. At the very least, I should be eating healthy and doing my chores every day, which would cover two stars.
I'm interested to hear if anyone has any suggestions to what I've described, or suggestions on different rewards / consequences.