I am sitting here with my wife (user KaraZorEl) as she is watching "Glee". Personally I am not a fan of the show, however I would LOVE to be the obedient lackey to the insane cheerleader coach, but she loves it. She is currently using the end credits theme as her text message ringtone. She is telling me that she was in the presence of a co-worker when her phone went off and her co-worker says "That is the gayest ringtone I have ever heard". My wife replied "First of all, it's not gay. And it's the music from Glee". Her co-worker, in one of the most ignorant retorts I have ever heard said, "That explains it".
I don't assume that everyone here is sympathetic to the progression of gay rights, though I hope the more so than not are. That being said, one's personal thoughts on the matter aside, to use the word "gay" as an insult is INFURIATING to me. The way I see it the use of gay as a synonym for words like "lame", "stupid", "inferior", or to describe the lack of quality of any given subject is the same as using racial epithets in a similar context.
One of my best friends, in fact the only person in my life with whom I have been friends since high school, is gay. He is one of the nicest and most generous people I know. More to the point, a lot of people with whom I am friends are gay, and NONE of them possess anything approaching the levels of apathy and ignorance I see in most people in general. The fact that such ignorant people use the word "gay" in a derogatory context is proof of my point.
I am no more likely to use, nor tolerate use of, the word as an insult than I am to use any other more infamous slur.
I am venting this here, and most likely preaching to the choir, because I have no interest in doing so on facebook and inciting a debate from the less enlightened people in my life. If you see eye to eye with me on this issue PLEASE "be the change you wish to see in the world", and stand up to the morons who perpetuate the hate.
Spread hope not hate.