I have brought this up with my therapist previously, but I wanted your input on the matter; anything will help.
I love my wife and she has been amazingly patient, especially in regards to my AB tendencies. However, there is a problem that is only getting worse by the day. Bottom line: as time goes on, I am just having less and less desire to "initiate" anything. I find her very attractive and no, I do not want anyone else. It's just like all desire for physical closeness is gone.
This has been happening over an extended period of time and part of me wonders if it's occurring in an inversely proportional fashion to my acceptance of being an AB. When my wife and I were first together, I really avoided these feelings I had and things between she and I, in that way, were fantastic. Yet, over time, as I delved into getting a feel for my AB side, I wanted that closeness less and less. Eventually, we got married, but that did nothing to spark things. Now, honestly, I would be perfectly fine if I never did "it" again. I love her and this whole thing is driving her crazy, but I can't force myself into it. I'm simply sliding into asexuality.
Anyone else ever go through this? Is it unreasonable to sense this struggle between AB-ism and intimacy?
PS I am not looking for advise to bring AB activities into the bedroom. I don't want to involve her in it and she definitely wouldn't like it either. Just thought I'd say that up front.