Anyone else college age and *still* have parents that snoop as if you were a teenager?
I don't do drugs, don't drink, have never dated anyone as far as they know (I secretly date women but don't even do that anymore), my gpa qualifies for magna cum laude honors... and is raising.
Yet my mother, real mother (not lucky enough to have a partner Mommy or Daddy) still finds some insane reason to snoop in my room a great deal. Just this morning she looked under my bed, in my closet, in all of my drawers and in behind my book cases. She found nothing of interest since I've used all of my diapers and am too broke to buy more at the moment. Thankfully. She does this periodically when I'm home, usually on break, maybe thinking that I'm carrying something or other with me back home. =/ She does this every break, so it's not an isolated incident. *Edited:* to add that she was looking for a flashlight. Supposedly.
She has also completely rearranged my room without my permission while I was gone to college before. No nice new paint job, no new things... Just... Everything had been turned upside down inside out, furniture moved around. "Redecorating." I think not.
I realize I've had past issues with depression. I realize that I used to have an eating disorder. I also realize that she has no clue what goes on in my life beyond a surface level so maybe she feels compelled to snoop. But that doesn't make my dealing with it any easier. I can't tell her about the preferring women. I can't tell her that I'm lonely. I can't even tell her that I'm extremely depressed because she threatens to stop assisting with college if I have any issues.
And I'm honestly too immature to live on my own like a normal adult at this point. (I have too many issues I can't resolve and am not getting psychological treatment because it's expensive, mother won't pay, and I can't get a job. I also don't want to give up the financial help.)
Basically, I want to ask... is this normal? Or is it still part of the horrendous relationship I have with my mother? Is it normal for a college aged person to have a parent go through their entire room all the time? Does it just feel abnormal because I genuinely have something to hide? Opinions?