My partner and I have been together for 6 years. We have an amazing 1 year old baby boy. So we are essentially married minus the religious and legal stuff.
Early in our relationship (first year) I told her about my AB past, but it was during one of those "purge" cycles so I must have played it down a bit. I told her I had thrown away all my baby stuff (which is true). It seems she came to believe she was the reason for the purge and had filled a space my AB side once did. You and I know it's not like that. It's not something that gets replaced by something else.
Cut to present day, I'm in a bit of a binge cycle right now. For the last few months I'm working toward talking about my AB needs with her again. I'm actually excited to finally have it out. I think not talking about it has started to effect our relationship in other negative ways. While she and our son are out of town I'm talking to her on the phone, and somehow when I thought I had hung up, I actually fat-fingered the facetime button. She sent me a text message to let me know I had done this and that she liked the music I was listening. When I picked up the phone (still not realizing face time was on) to read the text, we came face to face. Unfortunately, mine was sucking on a binky.
Now it's all out. Definitely did not wanna do this one over the phone, but sometimes life (Steve Jobs) chooses a different path for you. She is mad and sad. She feels like I've essentially been cheating on her. I try to get her to understand that it's not something that takes her place. It's just a part of me. A part that she doesn't know very well. Her being out of town is really not helping. Her imagination is running wild with what things I might be doing while she's away. She asks me and I'm telling her the truth. The truth, though necessary, is not always pretty.
Now for the reason I'm writing this post. She is wondering if there are any support groups for partners of adult babies. She feel's very confused right now, and maybe if she talked some others in her position it could help. This is her request, not something I'm gonna try to convince her of.
Thanks for any help