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    Hello all! This is my first post, other than my introduction, so bear with me if it goes on too long. But I have a lot to share, and no one else to share it with, so here we go.

    I am in a long term relationship with a girl whom I love very much. About six months into our relationship, I told her about my little side and my love for the "babier" things in life. It was difficult to do and pretty embarrassing as well, but I got through it pretty well. Yay for me!

    Unfortunately, she was decidedly uninterested in that part of my life. Obviously, since we're still together, she still wanted to be with me, but didn't want to participate at all. She is quite vanilla, to use an overused term, and just couldn't understand the what's and why's of my fetish. So we basically came to an agreement that I could do whatever I wanted in this respect, but that I shouldn't expect her to join in.

    It went on like this for a couple of years, me continuing to wear my baby stuff with impunity, she ignoring it, never questioning or commenting. I knew how she felt, and though she tried to hide it, I saw the revulsion and disappointment in her eyes whenever she saw my little side emerge. It made me very sad, and a little angry, but here I had this wonderful girl who loved me and let me do as I pleased. It was more than a lot of folks had, but the sense of lonliness wouldn't go away.

    So I quit. I couldn't get over the embarrassment I felt when she ignored my little side. It made me too sad to think that a part of my life, one that made me comfortable and happy, was to be neglected by the woman I loved. I told her that I was going to give up the baby stuff. She reiterated that I didn't have to, but I said I was going to anyway, giving her the reasons that I have stated above.

    That was about two years ago. In recent months, however, I have felt my little self coming out again. The fantasies, the feelings, they all came creeeping back. In recent weeks, I have ordered all new baby stuff, having it all delivered to a sympathetic friend's home until I figure out what to do with it.

    So there's the story, so far, of my realationship and the role that it has had in my little life. I have tried very hard to show you that I do not blame her or hold any ill will towards her. I love her very much and I understand that this is a difficult fetish to accept. I applaud her for letting me do my own thing, even when she didn't understand why I would want it.

    Thank you for letting me share,
    Lil Marky

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    That is tough. I know a little how you feel. I told my girlfriend about eight months ago and she took it well but just a few days ago she told me that she thought it was awkward a lot and didn't really enjoy doing it as much as she thought she was going to. So I think I am going to scale it down and not do anything in front of her or at least not directly involving her. I only expect her to accept it not necessarily like it or want to be apart of it. That is too bad about how she feels at least she didn't want you to stop all together. I would say getting back into it is a good idea no need to suppress your needs. Since you are having your stuff delivered elsewhere does that mean you live with her? Maybe you can talk to her about how you want to do it on your own time and designate some closet space for your stuff in a tub or something. That way she still doesn't have to be involved and you can still be apart of the lifestyle.

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    I feel ya on this one
    My girl isn't overly into it or anything, she participates a little but I know its not her thing. I try to do it in my own time and/or space out the time I am little so its not constantly in her face. I don't want to make her dislike it by making it a constant subject.

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    I told her that I was going to give up the baby stuff. She reiterated that I didn't have to
    I don't see that you do have to; you can do it on your own time and in privacy. Or maybe in the company of fellow ab's.

    I didn't give up porn (entirely) when I happened to be seeing someone; but they didn't want to be present either for that.

    Can you say exactly why, given the quote, you are still so uncomfortable playing around her? Is it how you believe she must feel: rejecte, ignored? Is it guilt over not paying her attention? Is it feeling foolish, like alone you "forget" how you must look but having a person present forces you to think how silly you must look?

    I would say if she says to carry on freely ad really doesn't mind, to trust her, take her at her word. Trusting that she is being honest with you about her feelings may be hard but can become easier over time.

    Answering the above questions will make it easier for us to offer useful advice. Help us to help you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Raccoon View Post
    Can you say exactly why, given the quote, you are still so uncomfortable playing around her? Is it how you believe she must feel: rejecte, ignored? Is it guilt over not paying her attention?
    Well, not really. Thinking about it, the only feelings of hers that I take into consideration in this matter are those that I percieve to be there. I feel like I am picking up feelings of revulsion or embarrasment on her part. I suppose that I could be seeing things that aren't there. I like to think that I know her well enough to pick up on subtle little clues, but I could be wrong. Women are a mysterious lot.



    Quote Originally Posted by Raccoon View Post
    Is it feeling foolish, like alone you "forget" how you must look but having a person present forces you to think how silly you must look?
    Actually, this might have a little something to do with it. Not a whole lot, I think, but she's the first non-AB I ever played in front of, so that might very well be a factor. Good insight, Old Grandfather. (This was what MY grandfather called racoons.) It's kind of funny, when I think about it. I don't find that I silly unless the thought of someone else finding out or being there arises. Could it be that even after all of these years, I am still ashamed of this part of my life? Dammit!

    Thank you guys for the sage advice and support.

    P.S. This was my first reply using quotes. And it's a double whammy. YAY!

    P.P.S. I was recently looking through the wiki, trying to figure out how the whole quote thing works and I stumbled across this:

    "Please don't complain if your girlfriend/boyfriend knows about and accepts your diaper usage, but refuses to change you. Frankly, you are VERY lucky to have someone that accepts it at all! Don't be pushy with trying to get other people to participate in your kink. The last thing you want is to get on their nerves and lose a true friend because you pushed them too hard."

    I guess I should have read this before I started this thread...

    Thanks for listening,
    Lil Marky

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilMarky View Post
    P.P.S. I was recently looking through the wiki, trying to figure out how the whole quote thing works and I stumbled across this:

    "Please don't complain if your girlfriend/boyfriend knows about and accepts your diaper usage, but refuses to change you. Frankly, you are VERY lucky to have someone that accepts it at all! Don't be pushy with trying to get other people to participate in your kink. The last thing you want is to get on their nerves and lose a true friend because you pushed them too hard."

    I guess I should have read this before I started this thread...
    Not at all. What I interpret it as and what your post is are different things.

    Good:


    Hi everyone, I have a relationship with a non-*BDL and I'd like some advice to help sort things out.
    Bad:


    Dude so I love wearing diapers and my girlfriend knows and everything, but she doesn't want to change them when they're wet. How can I get her to change my wet diapers?
    If you want to be cynical, you could probably interpret the two as being essentially the same thing. But the difference comes down to it being a matter of maturity and decency. The problem in the "bad" post above isn't the content, but that the poster has a severe lack of perspective on the situation and a lack of maturity in the posting. That's a person who not only has no appreciation for what he has, but also seems to be treating his girlfriend as a sex toy. That's the problem. Very little is off topic here, so long as you're bringing up the topic in a mature manner.

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    Thank you for the heads up and the support. I promisee that I am not one of "those" guys. I can put a sentence together and everything. I am, however getting used to a bluetooth keyboard for my iPad. Any typos you see are probably a result of that, and not my wonderful typing skills. Yeah, that's it...

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    No, no, you are clearly thoughtful, analytic, caring, and the self-deprecation suggests humility; and of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world, I'm glad you walked into this one. I know it can be maddening to be very smart in some ways yet not know how to deal with situations outside your strengths. That attacks the ego, if the ego is built around the strengths. Plus it's like God making you a great fisherman and plonking you in the desert.

    You have my sympathy, and my faith that all this can be worked out, to a happy conclusion; I do say though a solution won't be easy, just worth it: and it won't be quick (though it may be soon.)

    Demanding an immediate solution is unlikely to bear fruit. I have found the easiest path to becoming patient is to keep busy with productive, rewarding activity, to get your mind off the problem, without ignoring it either: make her fancy 5 course dinners; rewatch all your favorite movies; beat your favorite game on "legendary;" volunteer for that overtime.

    I'll respond closely to your post #5 in a bit. On a happier note, though you may not see it, you are waaaaaaaay ahead in the game, you and she share love, and a desire to understand one another, and a willingness to adapt: this is the rare stuff; like having raw talent in violin but stumbling over a phrase in a tough piece. Keep at it... but relax and maybe sleep on it and by morning you'll discover new approaches. ( "Overnight" is a metaphor: your conundrum may take weeks or to solve; but solved it will be. Also, discover doesn't mean invent. Adisc has many wise folk, and I'll be damned if we can't help you on your way. I have no solutions for you, just approaches. Most importantly, keep listening to people who want to help; or as the anarchists say,

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    Last edited by Raccoon; 29-Jan-2011 at 08:01.

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