Some of the people who come on to this site are trying to accept themselves, myself included. The thing is when I thought about it I knew exactly what it was I needed to do, to accept myself. In my circumstances I had to understand where fetishes actually come from, how they form and maybe even why we have them. I basically had to find a way to rationalise what in my opinion was irrational behaviour. Throughout the months I have spent researching, reading books and journal articles I have slowly come to see that what on the surface is seemingly irrational can be rationalised. In reading about researchers who are able to create fetishes in other animals and researchers who have surveyed and performed in depth investigation into those who have fetishes has provided an in-depth insight into this behaviour. The models they have presented have given a scientific explanation as to why I act the way I do. It is from this that no longer do I feel like the lone person in the universe. In fact now I feel strangely comforted by the fact that a lot of what is regarded as a 'normal' thing to find a turn on in society derives from the same basis as the fetish. Having the information at my disposal has given me the reassurance I need. It has given me the confidence in myself, not to shout it out on top of the roof tops, but to be able to share it with a partner and not feel ashamed of who I am.
I wonder what it is we all need to finally accept ourselves, for me - information, but what is/was it for you?