So I am currently faced with a really tough issue, this has been tearing me up inside and I don't know what to do.
Allow me to start from the beginning. Back when I was in the 7th grade about 12 or 13 years old was when my parents divorced. My dad was never really around for me even before the divorce. All my life, all I can remember is, it was my Mom that was there for me.
Multiple times I would ask my dad to go do stuff with me, but the answer was always the same "I'm busy" or "maybe later." When the time came, I gave my dad a choice, either his kids or his love life that was driving his kids away, He chose his love life. Now you may sit there and say, well why can't your dad have a girlfriend? I would not mind if he had not lied about it to me for several years. He kept it hidden. Many times he told me that he broken it off with her and he wanted to be a family again, but then months later I would find that to be a lie.
It was a little later I found out that he had been taking this new woman's kids on trips and to baseball games..ect...to sum it up, he found time for her kids, but never for his own.
Skip ahead a little later, something happened between them and now they no longer see each other, he has a new girlfriend or which he has told my brother about, but not me. This just angers me more. Now he is trying to get me to forgive him, but he acts as if nothing ever happened.
I do not know what to do. I am afraid that if I let him back into my life, he will just hurt me again. I would talk to my mom about this if I could, but every day all I hear is how much she hates my dad. In fact that's how I spent Christmas, sitting around listening to my mom say how much she hates my dad and all the things he has done. I would tell her to stop, and how much it depresses me to hear it, but afraid she would take it the wrong way and then I would lose the last family I have, that I have a good relationship with.
I am hopeful that someone here can help me, the last person that I tried to talk to, one of my closest friends, I thought I could trust, just told me to grow up (ironic yes?) and get over it. She told me my "fake it to make it" attitude was selfish (don't quite get that one. selfish would be forcing my problems on others, which I try not to do)