This behaviour is so unbelievably similar to my younger brother when he was between the ages of 7 and 12.
[QUOTE=Adinaonar;537416]This is true very well.
So, the terribly short story is that she tries to manipulate everyone in order to get them to sympothize with her. Now, no matter the case, if she doesn't get her way she throws a manic fit. Which results at first a piss poor additude, where she tries to legitimize her actions using sterotyped generalizations. Now, once someone tells her to calm down it escalates to where she storms off to her room, and begins not just crying but straight wailing, as if everyone she knows had died. That goes on for about 1-2 hours or until she hears someone trying to discuss the situation. From there, it turns into either coming out of her room or one of the parents telling her to get out of her room. Sometimes, she comes out apologizes and swears she will change for the better, or she comes out ready to fight. Where the only way to calm her down is to take her to the ground, mount, and subdue her until she calms down. After which, we all sit down, and talk about whatever the situation, So that we can understand her reasoning and she can understand ours, why she was wrong, what she should have done instead.
This is the never ending cycle.
To give an example.
Today we gave her an Ipod Touch, as a present. When she received it she was extremely happy. However, when we mentioned that we put on the parental controls to filter content to be pg-13. She, freaked out, saying that there was no point to having an ipod if she couldn't use it. Now, in trying to explain why we would setup a pg-13 filter for a 13 year old, she some how conceived that we weren't going to let her use it at all. Which, started the loop of trying to calm her down and explain. Now, at this time her parents 15 month had just laid down to sleep. So, as a general rule, If the baby is trying to sleep everyone does things quietly. Knowing this she stomps off to her room. ok, no problem, then she starts doing the (everyone I know is dead) wailing cry of attention which lasts up until my brother and I take our parents back to the airport, the round trip takes about 2 hours. Once we get back my brother's wife tells us that her wailing had scared her 6 year old son. OK, thats understandable. But, then she commences cleaning her room by throwing all of her stuff into his room and going on a rant that she hates Christmas and it was the worst one ever, blah blah blah. I wasn't there for it, so I wont dwell. Now that we are back we decide to sit down and discuss what happened. She starts by apologizing, like always. Then makes accusations based on opinions that she has created based off of selective hearing.
To generalize she is manic depressive, has issues with authority figures, is a habitual liar, and doesn't learn from her mistakes. fucked up thing is, she is an honor student.
Hopefully this helps a bit.
EDIT Additional Info
as far as an example of punishment, she asked for a hair cut, so we tell her that after school the next day we will get her hair cut. She decides that she is going to take scissors to her hair and do it herself. The punishment, not taking her to get her hair fixed for a few days.
Was it harsh, maybe a little embarrassing when she was with her friends, but no.[/QUOTE]