My girlfriend gave me this tip last night after i really wanted to be held last night
When she was a baby, she was a very good self soother...
When she would wake up in the middle of the night, she wouldnt cry. she would get up on her elbows and knees and sway herself back and forth until she fell asleep...she didnt grow out of it til she was 16
i tried it last night and i can honestly say ive never slept better and last night was the first night in 2 weeks i slept thru the night
hope it helps you