I had followed a link one evening last week that brought me to this forum. I have looked around after signing up but can't find the thread I was reading. So I figured I would just create a new one that will help dis-spell the myth that there is no surgery to make you incontinent...false, there is one.
My situation will take a few minutes to describe but will help some people on this forum. Hopefully the topic can be discussed because I am interested in feed back and or questions that I am sure this will bring up.
Lets begin....I am 44 years old now but this all began in the mid 1980's. I was hit by a car and suffered some nerve damage in my lower back. It wasn't until about a year or so later that I began to notice that my bladder wasn't emptying all the way and that even though I felt full when I would go it was a weak stream. I went to a urologist who ran a few tests and took pictures of the inside of my bladder. The result was there was some scarring and that my bladder was stretched. At the time there wasn't really much I could do other then self-cath. Well, I don't know about all of you but I hated it so I hardly ever did it.....
Fast forward to the present. I was in another accident 2 years ago and after that accident my bladder went haywire. Started getting bladder spasms and I would retain large volumes of urine to the point my kidneys were going to get injured if I didn't do something about it. There were 2 different options to fix the problem. 1 was to have a stent put into my urethra to keep the sphincter open or surgery. After being sent home to think about what I wanted to do I did a little research and discovered that a stent could be removed but that it can also shift around over time and may require surgery to fix if that ever happened. So I chose the surgery. I didn't really want a forein object being in my body so surgery seemed to be more natural.
The surgery would take me from being a High Pressure Incontinent to a Low Pressure Incontinent.
The surgery is called an External Trans-urethral Sphincterotomy. Basically the doctor goes in and cuts the sphincter muscle in 2 locations and may make a small cut at the base of the bladder. I can longer hold urine. My kidneys make it and it instantly flows out.
Choosing to be incontinent was the right thing for ME and all I can do is explain from my perspective. This surgery was the best thing I could have ever done. My health is so much better now and I feel better. It took some time to get used to being in diapers 24/7 but it wasn't long before I found the right diapers, and getting a routine down. I had to start getting in tune with my body. Even though I have no control I can feel when I am leaking into my diapers. I have noticed that wetting a diaper very slowly helps its absorbency levels. I don't flood my diapers anymore so I can wear a double diaper with a stuffer and go almost all day depending on how much I drink. I wear disposable diapers and I do have to carry around a fully stocked diaperbag but its not that big of a deal. I have a really nice baby styled diaperbag because it just seemed to have all the pockets and everything I would need will fit in it so why re-invent the wheel. I keep the diaperbag in my car so its always close by.
For those who were wondering or thinking about "how to become" incontinent and wanted answers....I hope this helped. I will say that I had to go through a lot of tests with my doctor/surgeon before he would even consider it. When it came down to it, he seemed very reluctant. I explained to him that I was wearing diapers almost all the time anyway and that he would not be ruining my "quality of life" but rather he would be helping me. My doctor was very cool about my situation and was never anti-diapers or any of that. I found a doctor that listened to me and allowed me to have a say in my treatment. After all the tests results were back and lengthy conversations we settled on surgery and set a date.
The surgery took about 2 hours and was home the same day. I had an over sized catheter in place for 14 days after the surgery to allow it to heal in an open position. The doctor told me that its necessary to have a cath because the body would simply try to fix itself. I went back and had the cath removed in his office and was helped into a diaper and sent home.
I had 3 follow ups...3 months, 6 months, and 1 year. I have a clean bill of health, I am fully bladder incontinent for about a year and a half and I am extremely happy.