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    Default An interesting problem....

    Yes, I know, I skipped the introductions, because I'm still completely feeling weird, so sharing a bunch of background doesn't quite feel right.

    Here's my trouble - My fantasy is not BEING diapered, but rather a recurrent fantasy about doling it out, with playful humiliation and so forth, without going into gory details. I have not shared this with my wife, because, well, it seems an awful long way out there in fetish land, and I'm afraid of how she'll respond. I'd love to play it out with her, even just one time, just to see if the real thing is as much of a pleasure as it plays out in my mind...

    Any thoughts or suggestions on how to approach the issue would be greatly appreciated...

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    Hi, WouldBeDaddy. Welcome to ADISC. So, you want to diaper and playfully humiliate your wife, but you are worried that she may be totally unreceptive to this situation. Without knowing anything more about you , or your wife, there is very little advise I can offer. I suspect many of the other members here will also be hesitant to offer many suggestions. It would be very helpful for everyone, if you were to visit the Greetings/ Intro. board, and post a short introduction. The information at the top of the page is quite helpful if you are not sure about how to introduce yourself.

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    Some general advice is to approach it like you would any new intimate activity in your relationship. It's difficult to comment without knowing more about the situation, but even an introduction wouldn't allow us the level of insight you already have about your wife. For example, we would have no idea if being more assertively honest is appropriate, or if working things in a little at a time is more appropriate. Make a judgment call using the other things in your relationship as guideposts!

    Oranges

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    It's tough, because this is a secret I've kept in the corner of my own mind for a long time. This is the first time I've ever openly expressed it, but it's been a recurring fantasy for me for years, long before I was even married the first time, never mind my current relationship.

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    This is a tough row to hoe. I've even speculated to myself (possibly even in a post somewhere) on how unfortunate it would be to be seeking what you're after. It's not that it's impossible- heck, there are any number of people here who would be keen to help you out. Problem is, you've got someone already and what are the odds she'll be into it?

    There's really nothing else for it but to ask your wife if it's that important to you. I'd say you'd have been better off to get to it before you really got serious with one another if it is that important. If it isn't such a big deal, then keep it to yourself or just mention it in a really casual way, perhaps as part of a laundry list of things you might come up with to add to your love life for fun, bearing in mind that you might be stuck with something you're not excited about at all as a result. I guess if you wanted further cover, you could suggest things in the ballpark first that are more neutral and see how they are received but I suppose you'll never know for sure until you make yourself clear as to what it means to you and that entails risk. Good luck!

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    My ex, I'd never dream of bringing such a thing up. The only reason I'm trying to work up the nerve now (other than the fantasy itself interfering with our sex life by disrupting my thought content in the bedroom) is because I know my wife was in the go-go scene way back when, so I know she's probably seen damned near everything there is to see in the way of fetish... although this is much more recent...

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    So this morning I finally worked up the nerve to talk to her about it. I gently eased into the conversation by talking about fetishes that she had seen and discussed with people back when she was in that scene. As I started to open up a bit and move towards my little fetish, she said "The only thing I won't do is wear a diaper." I was simultaneously stunned and crestfallen. Then she says, "OK, so what's your thing?" It took me a minute to try and get an answer out - and in the interim, her eyes brightened and she said "That was your thing? You want to wear a diaper?" - I said, "well, no, I actually wanted you to..."

    We started to talk more, kind of explore where this might have come from. I shared what I posted in my intro here. We agreed that a big piece of it was me being dominated and humiliated in a matriarchal household my entire childhood, and that, in some small way, this was my need to turn the tables and dominate/humiliate my female partner, even playfully, and that the diaper connection was that ultimate form of humiliation, someone who didn't need to be babied being forced to do so.

    We continued talking, and she actually agreed to let me order a sample pack so we could experiment - her one caveat was that she insisted we start watching porn together, to see "what else turns you on that you didn't know about". I inquired if she had any interest in roleplaying the opposite way, and she said no, she had never pictured me in a diaper.

    All that's left to do now is ask - what is out there in the way of the old-school plastic outside (the really noisy kind) that I could get locally instead of having to wait for a shipment to come in? I heard somewhere Depends Overnights fit that bill, but I'm not really sure. In order to get something small enough for her, I'll probably have to hit one of the local medical supplies or a drugstore - the local supermarkets don't sell adult smalls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WoulBeDaddy View Post
    So this morning I finally worked up the nerve to talk to her about it. I gently eased into the conversation by talking about fetishes that she had seen and discussed with people back when she was in that scene. As I started to open up a bit and move towards my little fetish, she said "The only thing I won't do is wear a diaper." I was simultaneously stunned and crestfallen. Then she says, "OK, so what's your thing?" It took me a minute to try and get an answer out - and in the interim, her eyes brightened and she said "That was your thing? You want to wear a diaper?" - I said, "well, no, I actually wanted you to..."

    We started to talk more, kind of explore where this might have come from. I shared what I posted in my intro here. We agreed that a big piece of it was me being dominated and humiliated in a matriarchal household my entire childhood, and that, in some small way, this was my need to turn the tables and dominate/humiliate my female partner, even playfully, and that the diaper connection was that ultimate form of humiliation, someone who didn't need to be babied being forced to do so.

    We continued talking, and she actually agreed to let me order a sample pack so we could experiment - her one caveat was that she insisted we start watching porn together, to see "what else turns you on that you didn't know about". I inquired if she had any interest in roleplaying the opposite way, and she said no, she had never pictured me in a diaper.

    All that's left to do now is ask - what is out there in the way of the old-school plastic outside (the really noisy kind) that I could get locally instead of having to wait for a shipment to come in? I heard somewhere Depends Overnights fit that bill, but I'm not really sure. In order to get something small enough for her, I'll probably have to hit one of the local medical supplies or a drugstore - the local supermarkets don't sell adult smalls.
    This is really great news for you and a great example of how people can react differently to an actual situation as opposed to a theoretical one. She had no interest in wearing a diaper until you put it in context, just like I may want to keep the $100 in my wallet until a friend needs it for a good reason and then I'm happy to part with it.

    Anyway, I'm pressed for time this morning but you're looking for Depends Fitted Maximum Protection for immediate gratification. They are available in most of the chain drug stores I've seen around. They're plastic outer shell, three tapes to a side, white, with a fairly unobtrusive wetness indicator. The smallest size is Small/Medium, so that may be a problem that leaves you looking for the medical supply stores but they could be worth the shot. If you do go the medical supply route, beware the Tena Super as the bag doesn't really advertise well that they employ a clothlike cover (although they're quite good for the price other than that). I've found Molicare Supers in one store like that before and those are very good if you don't mind a light purple color. Longer term, if the crinkle is of paramount importance, take a look at Premium Taped Briefs : Secure Personal Care. As practical diapers they're really bad; an embarassment for a company that makes two other very good products but they are very, very crinkly.

    Best of luck with your search and I hope you can find something else in your porn class that you will really enjoy together

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trevor View Post
    This is really great news for you and a great example of how people can react differently to an actual situation as opposed to a theoretical one. She had no interest in wearing a diaper until you put it in context, just like I may want to keep the $100 in my wallet until a friend needs it for a good reason and then I'm happy to part with it.
    Indeed. It's a wonderful thing, being married to a psychology major who also spent several years as a dancer, being exposed to all manner of fetish. She told me "shoot, this is tame compared to some of the freaky shit I've seen"....



    Best of luck with your search and I hope you can find something else in your porn class that you will really enjoy together
    Me too. Thanks for the support.

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    Yeay for Psych majors! Anyway, lurking streaming porn sites can be a VERY good convo starter. Maybe she could pick out 3 or 4 vids, and then you can at least watch the one that sounds most interesting? That way it's not "Hey, you should watch this" and be put on the spot. : )

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