For various reasons, primarily PTSD, I am experiencing increasing urinary incontinence. I find this very frustrating because it poses quite a few limitations on my life and activities, not to mention how inadequate I feel when I am with my friends. They don't notice that I am wearing diapers, though some know about it because I told them. I received either understanding and compassion or indifference from those I've mentioned it to. Yet I still feel "less-than" when I am around them, especially when I have accidents, even though they don't notice. The limitations are numerous but include: limiting time spent at friends homes because I am afraid to change in their bathrooms; not going out for too long because I am afraid to change in an open-stall public restroom; having to know where all the bathrooms are in town and where it's safe to change; putting up with changing my diapers all day; living with the damp feeling a lot of the time, etc.
My questions are for other incontinent people. How do you handle the frustration all this entails? What kinds of things do you do or tell yourself to raise your self-esteem? Hoe do you relate to your friends and family? What do you do to reduce the level of limitation - or can you?
These are important questions for me. I've had some incontinence all my life, and it has progressed. I can still get to the toilet for bowel movements most of the time, yet I rarely make it to the toilet to urinate, though I do make an effort.
I appreciate your responses.