A little history:
Okay, so I am 25 years old, female, developmentally "normal" (although I am obese, but have not been my entire life - and have been losing a great deal of weight lately). I don't really have health conditions other than asthma, bi-polar/borderline personality disorder/ocd/panic disorder, or back problems (scoliosis, and most recently an herniated disc pinching the sciatic nerve). I have had reproductive problems (a miscarriage about 8 years ago, cysts, endometriosis) and have had Mirena inserted (and I don't recommend it, after bleeding for 5 months).
Here's the deal:
I have suffered from severe (nearly complete) urinary incontinence my entire life; I have wet the bed as long as I can remember and have always had great difficulty and little success staying dry during the day. But, my parents really didn't 'get' it and, after bringing me to a doctor who, when I was 8 years old, didn't examine me and told my parents I was 'lazy', my mother got incredibly abusive and my father acted like I was a freak. So, by the age of 9, I became successful at hiding it from my parents (although exhausted with laundry and sneaky shopping), but because of feeling abnormal, hid the problem rather than addressing it for years.
When I was 23, I got married and my partner, who albeit is a terrible person I no longer speak to, was very understanding (she is 15 years my senior and diabetic, so had experienced urinary incontinence before being diagnosed) and unphased by the whole thing and convinced me to wear protection full time and talk to my doctor about it (which took me awhile to be convinced my doctor would be more professional).
I am now, as I said, 25, and am on a waiting list to see an urologist; my doctor seemed very kind and understanding, but really did nothing to examine me (nor did my gynecologist, who wasn't very helpful, blaming it all on my weight which I know can have an effect, but not as much as it's had).
After doing my own research, I think I may have a problem related to some neurological malfunction or nerve damage (I often don't even feel I have to go until I've already started or am just about to start).
Has anyone here had any success with any treatments for urinary incontinence? If so, please share your stories as I would love to have ideas to bring to the urologist. Anyone try any 'home' remedies, and if so, what, and to what effect?
Any help is appreciated. Thank you!
*Edit* - I should note what medications I take:
(that's all I can think of at the moment)