I haven't been on this forum for months. When I last was, it was because a close friend of mine came out to be as AB/DL.
Now, six months later, I found a boy whom I have a crush on. He's nerdy and cute and nice and everything I like.... And I just found out that he's a DL! I met him in a very vanilla group of people and had no idea that he was anything but vanilla upon first liking him. I'm astounded since this seems to be an uncommon interest yet this is the second time I've seriously run into it, that I again ran across someone who not only is a DL but I connected with well enough that he admitted it to me.
The problem: I'm not sure how to handle - or not handle - it. I think I've done a decent job at expressing to him that I have no problem with it and it doesn't make me like him any less. I've started reading up on AB/DL stuff again (though I haven't mentioned it to him). Should I say anything else or just remain silent on the matter until he brings it up again? Anything I should be prepared for or expect? Despite my reading on the matter, I still feel like I'm not really sure whether I should be expecting it to be important to him or an occasional interest, how he'd expect or not expect it to influence our (currently potential) relationship, etc...
I can provide more details on the exact context of how it came up with him if that's helpful. Either way, advice/reassurance would be appreciated. Thank you!