Personally, I am a child of the 90's.
When I was 2 years old, I specifically remember watching Barney the Dinosaur on television. I remember having a brown-stained wooden crib with a matching high-chair. I had a BumbleBall! I loved that stupid thing!
What I remember specifically was what I wore most often. Nothing. I was your typical toddler boy. I remember seeing videos and pictures of what I wore at the time when I WAS dressed up to be decent. My parents made an effort to give me a dignified babyhood, which I thank them for to this very day. I'm not embarrassed to look at or even show off my baby pictures. In fact, there were a lot of things about my babyhood that I found particularly badass. Mostly because I wasn't treated like a "stereotypical baby". I never wore a bonnet, or booties. They put me in disposable diapers. Not cloth diapers. I wasn't given a rattle. And my parents said that my personality shone through from the first few days I was alive in this world. And that is a sure sign that I was born to be as headstrong as I feel that I am today. I've been through a lot of grief with my friends and family. Especially with coming to terms with who I am.
So what exactly is a toddler-fur? Or a "toddlerist" in fact? Has that term even been coined yet? Well, before we go slapping definitions on things, let's take a subjective look at what infantilism is. First, the word itself.
Infantile by definition, the characteristic of or befitting an infant; babyish; childish; That which pertains to an infant.
ism- Used as a productive suffix in the formation of nouns denoting action or practice, state or condition, principles, doctrines, a usage or characteristic, devotion or adherence, etc. ( criticism; barbarism; Darwinism; despotism; plagiarism; realism; witticism; intellectualism ).
By definition, the word itself means the persistence in an adult of markedly childish anatomical, physiological, or psychological characteristics.
What do infants do? They giggle and grin, they're cute, they babble and belch, and make you smile.
What's more important is what babies cannot do. They cannot feed themselves, they cannot dress themselves, they cannot talk, they cannot walk, they cannot control their own bodily functions (or their body in general, for that matter) They require, to survive, constant supervision of another human being to help it develop and stay healthy so that it may flourish into adolescence.
Now let's take a step up the carousel of life (refer here ->YouTube - EVERYBODY RIDES THE CAROUSEL intro)
My subjective stance on my "babyfurism" isn't of that of a baby at all! Which is why I don't necessarily label myself as a 'babyfur'.
My regressed self is a mirror of that stage I held most fond as a child. As is yours.
Yours may be laying helplessly in your mother's arms, breast feeding, being completely out of control of your emotions, your body, everything.
Mine is the mornings where I got up before everyone else and was hungry... so I got it myself... kinda. Mine is screaming and running around naked, cause I can. Mine is the humiliation of potty training. A whole step up in the ladder from infantilism.
You may see yourself in cloth diapers, booties and a bonnet, riding in a pram, waving a silver rattle and drinking from a glass bottle. Personally, meaning that which pertains to MY opinions and MY life, I find that distasteful.
I see myself on the verge of graduating into training pants, wearing elastic blue-jean shorts and a geeky t-shirt my older brother bought me. I see myself drinking from a spill-proof sippy cup. Striving for independence, restricted by substantially fewer limits, and able to make a few decisions on my own. I'm able to get myself into mischief. I can choose what kind of food I do and don't like. I develop more of a personality.
So you see, I have no beef with infantilism. That's where it all started for me. And this is sort of a box-within-a-box for me as I've gradually developed my own personality as a "toddlerist" as it were. I've grown fond of modern baby culture, fashion, and whatnot. I can see lil Jeffy fox being dressed up in little clothes that look like they're for a teenager from the mid 90's. That was my own childhood. What I found the most fond about it. It's also where my love of inflation and weight-gain came from. I realized those interests as a child, and was never able to properly express them as I did not fully understand them until I came in contact with the community.
We're all different. There are no set "fetishes". Everyone who has a fetish or a mania or obsession of any sort always will like some sort of different aspect of what it implies as a whole.
For example, infantilism. One person may like the feeling of helplessness and humiliation of being in a soiled diaper, whereas someone else may find that the aspect of being loved unconditionally, the comfort, and joy that being babied feels like.
And it's a fantastic thing!
We're all brought together by similar interests, but not the same interests.
We all see these things in a different light, apply them to ourselves in a way that makes us happy!
And that is all that matters!