I came across this article during lunch. I see people asking questions like this from time to time, but most often they are sent to people who specialize in sexual question (particularly Dan Savage with Savage Love) or it's in some format that doesn't have reader discussion. The letter writer's question and the professional response are not really the most interesting to me, it's the discussion that follows. Unfortunately, she's covering an array of subjects, so the responses are a mix of those topics. Here's the main article:
Advice on manners and morals (May 29, 2008). - - Slate Magazine
Here's their discussion forum for this article:
Slate -> The Fray -> Dear Prudence
I skimmed most of the responses pertaining to this and be advised, this is not a particularly encouraging look at how people can react to what we're interested in. I do think it's instructive to see the range of responses, though. This site is oriented to adults, so the replies are typically reasonably thoughtful, even when they're extremely negative. For example:
There's a lot of resistance to this. A lot of it is based in ignorance, at least. The potentially difficult part is getting someone to listen long enough to see how it's not really so bad. If you know anyone who has accepted this part of you, go give them a hug.In fact, it does say it is a fetish. The LW uses the word "fetish" twice and "fantasy" once. In my mind, people use the word "fantasy" because it sounds less threatening than "fetish". A fantasy is an option, a fetish is a requirement.
He broke her in gently telling her he "likes to wear diapers" and her horrified reaction stopped him short from elaborating that he also likes to be cuddled and powdered and Desitined and that he gets a huge boner at the sound of the diaper tape being removed because that means mommy & baby playtime. This is a pedophilic fantasy, plain and simple.