I’m just wondering what people’s dreams for incorporating their AB/DL lifestyle into their future are, and I thought it might be nice to share them. I’m not asking anyone to share their fantasies (sexual or otherwise), but rather genuine hopes for their future as an AB/DL.
So I’m wondering things like: Do you expect to be an active AB/DL for the rest of your life? Do you hope to meet a partner who is AB/DL as well? Or one who accepts it but doesn’t join in? Or maybe you like the thrill of hiding it? Would you hope your friends and family know about this? Would you want to wear diapers 24/7? Would you wear in public? How often (if at all) would you engage in age play? Would you want to incorporate being AB/DL into your sex life? How often would you want to indulge in being an AB/DL? Would you indulge daily, or would you save it for special occasions? Would you want an adult sized nursery?
My hopes for the future are that I meet a guy completely outside of the AB/DL community (on meeting guys who are other AB/DLs in the past I’ve always found it harder to get to know them genuinely beyond that) – we’d share common interests (a sense of humour!) and do lots of things like camping, festivals, days out to amusement parks, zoos, little road trips – I’d like to be with someone I could be busy with.
Hopefully he’d be open minded, and already know of the AB/DL community just from stumbling around the internet. I don’t expect that he’d know much about it. I am quite open with all of my AB stuff, it is only my nappies/diapers that I hide from other people (I figure these are what they’d be most weirded out it.) I don’t hide that I still sleep with a dummy/pacifier (I collect them so around 130 are displayed in my room anyway) or that I like to wear footed sleepers or drink from a bottle sometimes. I’d hope he’s put two and two together and come out with four, and bring the situation with me (I don’t imagine ever being brave enough to bring it up myself).
He’d say that whilst he isn’t an AB/DL himself he suspects I am and wants to make me happy, so wants to allow me to fulfil my desires. We’d have a long (and hopefully not too awkward) conversation about what I want as an AB/DL – of course here I’d also let him talk about his desires and fantasies and hopefully try to accommodate him too.
Anyway, with permission to incorporate my AB/DL side into our everyday lives it would still be important to act as adult most of the time. I think I would want to be given the go-ahead by my partner to wear and use nappies (just for urinating) as often as possible when at home, with him perhaps changing me some of the time. I doubt I’d wear them in public much though, and wouldn’t want to try and make myself incontinent or anything. I would also like to be able to wear footed sleepers around the house in the evenings (I just love them) and to bed when it’s cold. I’d also like the freedom to use my pacifier at night and at other times, such as when watching TV etc. I like being bottle fed occasionally too, being fed a bottle before bed every night would be bliss. I’m not very into age-play, so most of the time although I would have all of my comforting AB/DL stuff around me I would still be my adult self – watch regular films/TV shows, play card games, cook food, just do regular things around the house. I imagine occasionally I might slip into baby talk, but probably just for 5-10 minutes before going back to adult me. Maybe occasionally I would want to act out some longer daddy/baby scenarios, but I can’t imagine wanting to do this often. Aside from my partner I don’t think I’d tell anybody else about this side of me (although most of my friends and family already know about everything other than the nappies), and when people came around I’d put away all of the baby stuff. Although the idea of playing and sleeping in an adult sized nursery sounds fun in reality I think the novelty would wear off very quickly for me, so I don’t think I would bother going down that route. I don’t think being an AB/DL is a sexual fetish for me, so I would try to keep sex and being an AB/DL separate.
In the future I would hope to have a family, so when that time comes I imagine I would put away my AB/DL desires for a while (in my experience when I am busy I get far less of them anyway) and would perhaps just go as far as to wear the odd nappy around the house after the kids have gone to bed – I would probably leave the rest of it for when they’ve left home as I imagine seeing your mum in a nappy with a footed sleeper and dummy in her mouth would probably screw you up a little!
So that’s kind of an insight into my ideal future as an AB/DL. I’m just wondering what yours is? Or if you feel you’re already living your dream, then it’d be great for you to share that too. Thanks for reading!