I have just discovered and registered here. I am autistic (Asperger Syndrome), and study chemistry as a postgraduate student in the UK.
I have always had some problems with incontinence, since due to sensory problems (that are common in autistics) I have problems telling if my bladder is full, especially if I am concentrating on something. This used to lead to smaller accidents (where I would just notice that I had to go, when I started loosing urine), and during stressful times to major ones (where I would just suddenly notice my wet pants).
In the past, I have only worn diapers during thos more stressful times in my life, but in March this year, I started wearing diapers, to see how much stress reduction it would bring during 'normal' times. The stress reduction was tremendous.
After a bit of thinking, I decided that, even given the risk that I could eventually lose bladder control, the stress reduction was worth wearing diapers 24/7. I have been wearing diapers ever since. Well, me being a DL before that, might have been a reason for this 'overkill'-Solution.
Another advantage, that I did not even consider when making that decision is that I can now drink enough without risking wet clothes. So I managed to slip out of the constant mild dehydration that was just 'normal' for me before.
I am waering Abena X-Plus whenever I stay home for some time, and Abena Super while I am at the University or otherwise out. I am currently testing Tena Maxi as an alternative to the Abena Super, since they seem to have more capacity, without bein as conspicuous as the Abena X-Plus.
When I started wearing full time, I stopped being weary to make sure I kept my pants dry. This has resulted in a lot less stress (which was my goal). I did not stop the flow anymore, when I noticed that I was wetting, and just let it happen. The 'wetting accidents' got considerably more frequent, and by April I often only noticed that I was wetting, when I was in the middle of it. Right now, I sometimes even wet without noticing at all.
Since I accepted the possibility that I would lose bladder control, this has not been a scary experience, but instead an iteresting one. Loss of bladder control was not my goal, but a possible 'side effect'.