OK, im in a situation and really donít know what to do for the best, so im asking for the thoughts of you great open minded people here on adisc.
Basically when I was traveling last year I ended up in Thailand with a group of people, one of which was a German girl who I got on with really well. Nothing happened between us whilst we were there but we became really good friends and kept in touch regularly. She already speaks very good English and would like to become a teacher in Germany teaching English. She is currently waiting to start her course which lasts for 5 years so whilst she had some time she decided to come over to the UK for a week. She stayed with me and we had great fun seeing all the classic British things and also some camping.
During this time I didnít realize it but I had become quite attached to her and whilst nothing happened again, I was gutted when she left to go home. So much so I was nearly crying which is very unlike me and it shook me up for a couple of days. This made me realize I really did like her and I found out that day that she had felt the same way about me
My dilemma is that she is back in Germany, and the southern part of it! I have a full time job thatís going places and I have a good career ahead of me here but I really like her. My feelings have faded a little since she has been gone (almost a week now) but I put that down to being really busy moving out of home (which is also exciting but daunting at the same time for me right now) and also with my job. We have spoken nearly every day on Skype and she has really fallen for me. Im worried we wont be able to keep a relationship going and wont see each other very much at all. Especially as we havenít had any time together as a couple yet so donít quite have that bond, if you get me... She is perfect for me though, shares the same outlooks in life, makes me laugh, is fun loving and hopefully can put up with me for the rest of her life!
So my questions to you guys are;
Should I do it and commit to a relationship with someone who is nearly 1000 miles away and about to start a 5 year uni course?
Also, if I do, when should I tell her about my slight AB mostly DL tendencies? Its never been a question of "if" I tell a long term partner for me, im just not sure if I should get it out the way early incase she doesnít like it or wait to make sure sheís the one then risk everything weíve worked for... I think she finds my childishness cute IDK...
Your thoughts are greatly appreciated