So you ever had that feeling? You're walking down the hallway/street/stairwell and suddenly you see something. Your whole body tenses up and you freeze. Suddenly time is moving slowly and you begin to sweat. You retreat into your own head and start feeling numb. You are moving, but you feel stiff. You're waiting for what you feel is an inevitable conflict. You try to shrink, make yourself unnoticeable. You lock eyes and feel a shiver. Imperceptible to the naked eye, but you can feel it running down your spine. You've been seen and you have nowhere to go. They look away, but you keep staring. You need to keep your eye on them, just in case. You see them turn the corner and suddenly you just get the hell out of there. You don't care how you look, you just need to get away, get somewhere safe.
I've got to say I've been pretty lucky on this side. I've been pretty much left alone. That has a lot to do with my brother, though. He's kind of a well known guy and so people know not to touch me or he'll get involved. I never actually tell anyone we're related. They normally find out on their own and realize I'm not supposed to be touched.
That doesn't mean that I'm immune to this shit. There's always the thick-headed guy who knows nothing and just wants people to see how tough he is. Like I said, I don't TELL people about my brother. I don't expect him to come "save me" if shit goes sour, but I don't tell people that he wouldn't help. I'd probably tell him NOT to help, to be honest. He'd hold it over my head if I ever came to him for help with this stuff, but if people want to ASSUME that I have some beefy body guard then they can go ahead. The above applies to a guy who gets perverse enjoyment out of picking me out of a crowd. Little things like pulling my chair out from under me instead of getting a new one for himself, sometimes hitting me "just 'cause". Not even hard, usually. More like a primitive "I'm bigger than you, what are you going to do about it?"
There's other more subtle things, too. Not anything that compares to the above, but still bullying. The people who talk to you, not to be nice, but who are probing you, waiting for you to say something stupid so they can laugh about it. I find it happens to the really dumb kids and people like me. The people who know WAY more about a topic than is necessary in an average high school setting. I obsess over things, and it really shows when I get into a conversation with people. I know people that bring up topics that they know hardly anything about and then ask me MY opinion on it because they KNOW that I'll say something... not stupid, but not "cool". If I try to ignore it they just badger me with questions like "Why won't you answer? We know you know about this sutff. C'mon, you afraid?"
I started thinking this because I was walking down the stairs and I saw this guy on his way up and I felt like time had stopped for a second. I completely froze. The feeling was completely irrational. A large portion of the school was in the stairwell and he wouldn't DARE do anything right there, but I still felt petrified.
So yeah, just was wondering how many people go through this? How do people cope with this kind of stuff?
There's the obvious "tell a trusted adult", but that's a crock of bullshit. What's the person going to do? Anything you do to "punish" them is just going to piss them off and make you look like a bigger target.
There's the old favourite "fight back". Oh wait, zero tolerance exists now. If a bully decides to fight me and I fight back we are punished equally. What's worse, I know of a guy who had to plead guilty and go to court for defending his friend against a bully because the bully said he was assaulted. The reason he plead guilty was he asked his brother to go to the fight, just in case the bullies thug friends jumped in and he needed backup. He was told if he didn't plead guilty his brother would be fired from his job because he would ALSO be charged with assault. His brother ended up getting fired over it anyway, but it was too late, he already plead guilty. He got lucky, when they went to court to discuss the actual probation and punishment and all that the judge saw through the bully and basically gave the kid the ABSOLUTE MINIMUM for everything and apologized for him having to go through that.
So yeah. That's probably what frustrates me the most. The "victim" needs to eiher become a rat and tell on the bullies, which will probably just get everyone to think he's a pussy, or he could fight back and be charged with assault. Even if he ISN'T charged with assault, it's VERY easy to get suspended, or even expelled, with the zero tolerance rule.
P.S. Not looking for pity or anything, just wondering how people deal with it since all any propaganda says is tell, which has a glaring flaw, and everyone else says fight.