When my dad was in high school, he had a lot of sex with a lot of different people. I know this because he never kept it as a secret. I've always known that he's wanted me to get a girlfriend and have sex, but I always thought it was because he wanted me to be a normal teenager. We talked the other day and I learned his true worry which is one of the most convincing things I've ever herd from him.
He started off telling me how I was like his brother (my uncle) in that I'm just not interested. He said that for my Uncle, that wasn't a problem. He had sex with and married the first person he fell in love with, and he could do that because he's not very attractive. My Uncle is really weird looking and has craters all over his face where there use to be massive boils. My dad still looks like he's in his thirties and he's 52.
Here's where the issue arrives. My dad told me about all the times that girls had thrown themselves at him telling him that they wanted to have sex with him right there. He was married, so he said no every time, and he assured me that he never cheated. Then he told me that the only reason he didn't cheat was because he had gone through that while he was single. He knew what he was missing by being married, and he knew that his family was more important.
He told me stories about people who held back while they were single and ended up wondering what they were missing while they were married. His dad was one of those people, and he left my dad and his mom to be with a bunch of new women. My Uncle pulled it off because women didn't try to tempt him since he's not attractive.
My dad swears that if I do the same thing my Uncle did, it wont be the same. Women will try to get with me, and I will be tempted. He told me that the best way to avoid that temptation is to know what it is, and the only way to do that is to experience it for myself.
This made me re-think everything I felt about sex. What if when I finally do find someone, I end up loving the sex? What if because of that I make the biggest mistake ever and ruin my family? Sex isn't important to me, which is why I'm not trying to get some. I'm not trying to save myself or anything, I just really don't care. I think I am going to take my dad's advise though just to prepare for the future.