I'm a noobie, but I've search and read what I can around here...I kind of get the impression that a lot of people want the mommy/daddy/carer position to be taken up by someone they're in a relationship with (because of the trust and love etc already there). And whilst, it's mostly unrealistic to think that it could be that way all the time, some enjoy AB session with their partners, in various ways - sometimes sexual, sometimes not.
I don't know if this is unsual or not, and maybe it is because of the non-sexual nature of my ABness, but I am not interested in a 'relationship' with a carer. In my situation it wouldn't feel right. I'd like someone who would just sometimes take care of me. An older female. I guess in an extension of how my therapist held and rocked me in me sleep. (sleep study thing). Like I don't actually remember (because I was asleep) but when she told me I just felt like there was this want inside of me. Like I just want to be cuddled up and kept safe. But not in a way that a sexual partner would provide...for me, it would complicate things.
Sorry if I'm being confusing/unclear. I just wondered what people's thought experiences are on being mothered by/mothering (or otherwise) someone who is not your partner.