Here's a question and situation that I would like to ask of those of you out there that deal with incontinence.
What is the typical attitude you get from a urologist about managing incontinence with diapers?
I have been dealing with bladder control problems all my life (and the occasional bowel issue as well, yuck!). I grew up in diapers. At the same time, I fight very nasty headaches known as cluster headaches. These are nasty beasts that give me the equivalent of a migraine headache every four hours, six times a day, every day, seven days a week, 365 days a year. This has been going on constantly for over a decade now
I watch very closely the medications I take for my headaches--they are critical and screwing around with my body chemistry isn't something I can do on a whim. I'm not just going to willy-nilly throw a new medication into the mix when a urologist decides that I shouldn't be in diapers or I switch to a new urologist or whatever. Because of this, I actually tend to avoid going to urologists if I can anymore.
When I started having all my testicular pain, I went to the first urologist diapered as normal, and he dismissed my pain as "insignificant" so that he could concentrate on my lifelong bladder problems. I told him I had come to terms with it and the pain was my major issue I wanted dealt with, he said I needed to be out of the diapers, that I shouldn't be 'giving up so easily'.
I made sure I didn't wear diapers to the following urologists. The pain hurt too damn much (I had called up and immediately canceled my follow-up appointment with the first urologist, what an A**hole).
So what about you? When you go to a new urologist or similar, do you get medications pushed in your face? Do you get the doctor arguing with you that you need to be out of diapers? Do they act like you've given up trying to do anything about your incontinence because you manage it with diapers (or other similar product)? Have they tried telling you that you're not fighting hard or living life because you have a diaper on for incontinence management? Do they ignore you when you talk to them because they can't stop focusing on the fact that you've decided to use diapers?
Or are you fortunate enough that they just shut up and follow along?
I know medications are a slippery slope for me, and I won't stand for them to be pushed in my face. So I just wonder if I'm the only one who faces this when I show up at the doctor with a diaper on my butt.