We had a family party last Sat. with lots of young grandchildren around (3 of them in diapers). We used one of our extra bedrooms as the "offical" changing room, therefore all the diaper bags were in the room. When most of the people were out in the back yard with the BBQ, I went into the house just as my 6 y/o grandson was coming out of the changing bedroom. I was to far away and he moved to fast for me to see what he was doing, but I thought it strange that he was in the baby changing room. I came around the corner as he went into the bathroom.
Out of curiosity I went and stood by the bathroom door. I heard sounds that were not in accordance with just using the bathroom, and he stayed in there for over 10 minutes. Our daughter (his mother) came in the back door of the house and saw me, and asked me if I had seen her son (the one in the bathroom). I pointed to the bathroom and she came and knocked on the door asking him if he was ok. He gave a somewhat feeble and hurried answer that he was. Then she said, we need you and everyone is waiting for you. We both heard some moving around, with my daughter even looking at me with the look of wondering what he was doing, then he unlocked the door and came out (not having flushed the toilet). His mother asked him what he was doing in there and he said "just going to the bathroom". She asked him if he forgot to flush and he ran back in and flushed the toilet (his mother was in to much of a hurry to question him more, so they just went back outside)
Well after they left, I went into the bathroom because I had a bad feeling about all of this. I looked around, saw the rug had been moved alittle bit, and then looked in the trash can. Sure enough, there was a disposable diaper with some toilet paper on top of it. I pull it out and the tapes had not been used, but it was very wet. My heart sank.
Don't get me wrong, I love my diapers, but if I had to do it all over again, I sometimes wish I wouldn't of gotten into them in the first place. To be honest, they have been almost more of a liability then an asset through the years. With all of the fear that my kids would find out, and if they did, what embarrassment that would cause. And if other friends would find out, what they would think of me. And just the general feeling that even though my wife accepts them, does she down deep think I am less of a man because of wearing diapers every night. And having to buy disposables for our vacation at the end of this week because my wife doesn't trust me without a nighttime diaper now. And what if her relatives find them while we are at their home the next two weeks, she would die a thousand deaths!
So when I saw the evidence of my beautiful grandson, who I taught how to ride a 2 wheel bike at 3.5 years old, and am teaching him how to play the piano, possibly going down the same road I have, it cause pain in my heart.
I don't know what to do about my "find". Should I tell my daughter about it, or just let her find out about it herself? I know my grandson would be very hurt if he knew I told on him. But what if he steals a diaper out of another diaper bag such as at church and gets caught? Not only will he be embarrassed, but the whole family would be also. Since his sister is out of diapers (his mother is 7 months along with his brother), the only way he will get diapers is by stealing them. So getting caught is a real possibility.
Or should I try and talk to him myself in private? If I could tell him by personal experience what he is getting into, it would probably cure him. But I am not about to tell him about my diapers, he really looks up to me and I would never do that in a thousand years!! I told my wife about it and she doesn't have any ideas either.
So do any of you have wisdom about what I should do in this situation?