How long do you wait to have it?
I am asking this question for the purpose of piece of mind. You see my first serious relationship was a girl. Obviously, she lacked a penis but reguardless it took almost a year for me to feel comfertable doing things (this includes oral and fingering).
Now I am with a boy. I do feel that I love him, but it obviously doesnt mean hes the one. Ive only known him a little over a month. Weve been dating two weeks and we have made it to third base. However, at first he kind of wierded me out. He would text me asking to hook up and would be all over me. Though when i told him to slow down he respected my reaquest. That display of trustworthyness upped his chances of me dating him and have got our relationship to this point. i feel it has gotten this far in such a short amount of time because he has pushed me, but its also teen hormones and whatnot.
Now he wants me to have sex. I feel like I somewhat want it but i feel like virginity is a special gift and should only be given to someone you love. Yes, I know this is mighty old fashoned of me but I am someone who loves people based on emotions and feelings for them. Sex is secondary as far as I'm concerned. Though i will say i feel a connection whenever i am with him, and I miss him a lot when im not with him.
I also would like to mentoin that before, when he would fonddle me I would feel somewhat ashamed. This doesn't make sense rationally, but it does emotionally. I know emotionally I will always love my x. Perhaps she never took my physical virginity, but i gave her my innocence and she is the first person to see my body naked in a sexual way. Of course I allwoed this becausae I trusted her. Again it took me a year to get to this point, but during that time I wasn't comfertable with my own body. I suffered deppression and anorexia, so maybe thats somewhat what sloweed it down...who knows. I just feel wierd going this fast when i went so slow before. It seems im almsot doing her an injustice. I cant look at her the same. But eh...i know part of this is simply me needing to let go. The good thing is this sense of guilt is dwindling...but now the question is....when do i know if i want to have sex with the boy (id use his name but this is a fetish site after all)
soooooo my question to the site is. According to your morals, how long after being in a relationship do you feel is the right time for sex? Not sex for physical pleasure, but sex as a sign of love and affection.