Bit of a speil here. (Not the German meaning (game or playing)... the German translated to English and losing meaning meaning... in other words.... Long amount of talking about a subject)
So, even as a guy who's job it is to help depressed people (and other problems)...getting a bit depressed here. I've been searching for a nice girl to get to know for well on 5 years now and haven't found one who is single who meets my requirements. This is bad because my requirements are so ... simple.
1) a girl
3) not a gold digger
Now, I'm not looking for a girl into any of this abdl stuff or anything like that. Just looking for a nice girl. Just can't seem to find any who are single.
First one I went for was a awesome Cook Islander girl. Pitch black girl who did island dancing. Best smile. However, asked her our and she was not interested because, at 17 she was after 20 year olds. (not people the same age)
Next girl was my best mate from my education/child psychology course and who I have also known since I was 12. I have the misfortune of being that nice guy who everyone loves to be friends with. She fell in love with a guy who completely pisses me off... Not cos he's a dick head... but because he is so nice and... exactly like me that I can't figure out what made her go for him over me. (He's now one of my best mates... bastard)
Next girl was a girl who was absolutely stunning. Super model hot... but very mature and didn't do any of the games young girls seem to do. Interested in ALL the same things as me and could talk to her on any subject for hours... and she falls for a complete and utter jerk. Someone who is loud, obnoxious and generally annoying. (He's also my friend now. I'm everyones friend... Bastard)
Basically, I meet girls left, right and center but only the really horrible girls seem to go for me.
Example: Asked a girl out who was completely into me. Bit of muck around fun and then she popped the question... "What do you do?" "Oh, I advise teachers on how to help kids." "Oh.. how much does that make?" "About $50k" "Oh ... sorry.. I was looking for a guy who was on the mines or a geologist... at least $100k"
As a very outspoken person you can imagine what I said to this gold digger.
Example 2: Got asked out by a girl who I found pretty sexy. (I'm into bigger girls) Went to the zoo with her and some of her mates. Going fine... seemed nice. BAM. There was this Aboriginal kid there and she goes up to a security guard and made up this HUGE fantastic lie that he was throwing things at the lizards. I intervened and asked "Why the hell would you say that?" and she goes "He's Noongya (local Aboriginal tribe). He wasn't doing something wrong when we were there but he would of when we left!"
Told her she was a scary bitch and left.
Problem is, this has happened not once, but 7 times. Gold diggers and prostitutes. (same thing)
I was talking to a girl the other day and she said, "I don't know why but the guys I date always turn out to be jerks. All guys are jerks."
And, from what I figure, only a minority would be gold diggers and most would want to get to know nice guys.
Now, I'm not sure how I fall outside the radar. I volunteer in a number of groups, I'm fantastic with kids (have to be in my job), I can talk to anyone, have a great sense of humour and have everything in terms of personality going for me. In the physical department, yes... I do wear glasses but I'm a bloody rock climber. I f***en climb cliffs for fun and am pretty tanked. I can run for over an hour without stopping and play sports constantly. I'm a pretty muscular (in a wiry way) and fit bloke. The girls I get with have all commented on my awesome back muscles (actually my lats). I'm also bloody confident and think I'm a champ (as you may have noticed) which, according to everyone I talk to, is the important thing. Confidence.
The only thing I don't have is money.
Now, I'm pretty sure that the minority (20%) of girls are gold diggers and prositutes... or less. So where do all these nice girls hide?
Anyone know how to find nice girls as an adult? Where are they all hiding and why do they always date people they don't like?
End of thought releasing rant aka ... just got back from date with girl who asked me how much I earned and needed to vent.