So I've been counting down the days with extreme and utter excitement until I'm planning on leaving to go meet my long-distance boyfriend/daddy figure. And while this is awesome and all, and I've got all the details down to a fine line (costs, location, where we'll meet, what we intend on doing, etc etc.) I still haven't quite broken it to my father about wanting to leave to meet him. See, my father doesn't know that I'm in a long-distance relationship, he only knows that I've been talking to someone for a while and that it's a 'in-game friendship', seeing as we both met and play WoW together. My father is one of those die-hard old-fashioned men, who can't seem to understand or 'let his daughter grow up', regardless of the fact that I'll be 19 in April and able to chose whatever I wish. So I figured telling him about all of this could really go one of two ways:
1- I tell him I've been 'in a relationship' with this man for over 2 months now, and would like to go see him in July. My father flips, tells me I can wait until he rolls over in his grave, and I leave anyway against his wishes.
This option is highly likely, and I fear he will pull this one above the other one. He could very well say something like "My house, my rules," which is highly understandable, but also crushing to me. There's no men in my area whom I even remotely consider dateable, one, and two, none that I love like my Texas boy. And in the event he does pull this, I can always opt to move out of the house, something I really REALLY don't want to do, but I can do. My grandparents on my mother's side of the family love me and know my father's behavior, so they'd have no problem taking me in. But I'd still feel some level of guilt for fighting with my father over this. I care for him, he's my own blood, I'm created from him, but, for him to continuously deny me happiness, ain't gonna fly.
2- I tell my dad I've been 'in a relationship' with this man for over 2 months, and would like to go see him in July. Dad, against his every urge to say no, accepts my decision but only under a series of tight rules, such as times to call him, pictures of this man, and details of my location, etc etc.
This one, no matter how much I hope, is highly unlikely. My dad is not the type to simply say "Sure, but you have to call me every ten minutes." However, in the event he did this, I'd have to fess up to a lot more than just being in a long distance relationship with my Texas man (which, my father doesn't really believe in. He believes in up-front, face-to-face relationships, so even considering telling him that I'm 'dating' someone, he won't accept it as dating. He'll say it's just a long distance friendship. I know better, so it doesn't bug me as much.)
I guess the real question here is if anyone has parents or even friends that are tough on them like this when it comes to a long distance relationship you've previously had or are in, and how you handled it with them. Did you tell them about it, and how did they take it?