I'm moving from my house to an apartment. The apartment is in the town where I go to university.
I am also starting to think to the future. I'm not sure I'm ready for dating and everything that entails, but I do want to invite young ladies* over and have a nice time. That may have sounded sexual, but it's not intended as such.
I'm a painfully private person. I know that if I am left to it, I'll hole up in the apartment, close all the blinds, close in on myself, and be a hermit. This is what I'm asking:
(For the young ladies here especially: ) What can I do to make a place feel as airy, welcoming, inviting, and intimate as possible, without it being festooned with shag carpeting and velvet paintings? I want women to feel welcome, not like they are expected to put out.
Note: I have no television. As such, "movie nights" would be difficult. I have the following furniture that will go into the living room:
- 3-cushion couch;
- ... shit, that's all the furniture I have now.
I'll probably buy a couple of chairs and maybe a low coffee table as well.
- What kind of layout should I set up?
- Aside from dimmable lighting, how can this room be made into both a "public" and "semi-intimate" space?
- Am I missing something else?
* By this, I mean people who are my age or younger. It's a college town, so not a lot of thirty-somethings are going to be single. Ideally, I can picture a 25+ year old person (someone in grad school, at least) and I getting along really well. This is what I mean when I say "young ladies." Thanks to Zephy for pointing out that the phrasing here sounded a bit pervy. I'm not specifically looking to date anyone right now ... but I'm trying to put myself into the position where I might have to kindly turn down an offer, rather than being in a position where I'm finally ready and unable to find anyone. This said, I'm not sure that I'd get along intimately with someone who is 20-23, because I am removed enough from current events and popular culture as it is. They might start talking about ... er ... well, something current, and I'd have no idea what they were going on about. And then I'd have to gently tell them that I've no idea what they're talking about, and that I live under a rock. And that's a somewhat embarrassing conversation to have.