Ok Im really hoping someone can actually give a good reason for why this f**king happens. Because this is REALLY pissing me off and I am really getting fed up with society over this.
WHAT THE **** IS IT WITH EVERYONE TRYING NOT TO HURT PEOPLES FEELING WHEN SOMETHING IS WRONG!!
In society today everyone is so f**king scare of hurting others peoples feelings that when something is wrong they just keep their dam mouths shut. And then they let the problem grow and grow, and they when it finally does come out the person's whos feelings they were trying not to hurt get hurts 100000000000000000x worse.
I mean come on people what the heck is going on with all the dam silence. I am sick of losing or almost losing friendships over s**t like this.
I almost lost 2 friendships because people didnt tell me what was wrong, that i was bugging them and i didnt kno, until it got to the point where the friendship was over. They thankfully finally told me before it got past the point of no return and now were back in great terms with eachother.
Now I have just lost a friend cause apparently the past few times we talked on messenger i annoyed him cause i wasn't having a good day(s) so i vented to him, cause friends are supposed to be there to listen when you need an ear.
Now this apparently annoyed him. But He didnt say anything, he listened, and comforted me a bit. And he stayed silent. Didnt say i was annoying him, didnt tell me to stop just was silent.
NOW here comes the best part. He starts avoiding me, saying sorry he hasnt been on, lifes been busy. Now i can understand it, some times life throws us problems.
But it gets to a point were i can tell hes having contact with other people(while supposedly busy and AFK) and i pretty much come to the conclusion that he blocked me on messenger and just ignores me on here. Now i finally send a message. And then i get told everything. And i get told that they dont want contact with me anymore.
And it f**king hurts. I love all my friends and i never want to hurt, annoy, pester, or bother them. So when I find out i have been doing this I say sorry and ask why i just wasnt told i was annoying them so i could stop or attempt to stop what i was doing that annoyed them. Might it bother me a bit, yes, but its better then lieing and avoiding.
But the whole thing revolves around: "YOU CANT FIX A PROBLEM IF YOU DONT KNOW IT EXISTS"
NOW COME ON PEOPLE HONESTLY...
If someone is bothering you, or annoying you or offending you or w/e. DONT be afrade to let them know that they are. People got to stop worrying that they might hurt others feelings and let them know when something is wrong or a simple thing turns in to something huge.
People have heard silence is acceptance. but its not... a person could be hateing whats going on but they will stay silent and let it go on. Then eventually it gets past the point of no return and all hell breaks lose and you do something you might regret. Hurt someone, hurt yourself, destroy a friendship over something stupid or simple, lose someone you care about.
People need to learn to open their mouths whens something wrong.
Ive lost friendships due to me being silent or others being silent, and ive seen other friendships have the same thing happen to them and its sad. Two great friends might throw it all away over something so stupid as something not said.
now if you have read this far first off I appreate you at least listening to my rant, this has really been bothering me these last few days and ive been crying and just inverting. And i needed to get this off my chest or it would have driven me nuts.
But now i wanna know what you guys do or what you think should be done