I was reading about some psychological study about the different types of attachment that people have in romantic relationships, and I was curious as to whether AB/DLs and care-givers are more of one type than another. I don't (yet) have any information to compare AB/DLs against the population as a whole, but anyway...
Would you say that...:
1. I find it relatively easy to get close to others and am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me. I don't often worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close to me. (SECURE)
2. I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult to trust them completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets close, and often love-partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being. (AVOIDANT)
3. I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me or won't want to stay with me. I want to merge completely with another person, and this desire sometimes scares people away. (ANXIOUS)
Apparently, the type of attachment that you have with your parents when you are a baby is an indication of the attachment you will later have in romantic relationships. I wondered if this was in any way related to our love of nappies, etc... Anyway, for what it's worth, I reckon I'm an "avoidant" type - shy, insecure or mis-trusting? Don't ask me!