When I finish up my bachelors next year, I plan on taking a year off before I go on to earn my masters. During this time, I've often entertained the idea of doing an ethnographic project on ABDLism (and probably, by association, some BDSM). I've found that a lot of people are aware of such nooks of our culture thanks to their display in the media, often driven by the humor or shock-value people see in them. But precisely because of this, I would want to put out something that takes the matter seriously and gives a view into the of world of diapers, adult babies, domination, and discipline that does not mock or deride it, but presents it in a way that the average person might understand. It would be to the ABDL community like what "Middlesex" or "Transamerica" was to the transgender/intersex community.
But when I think about this, I have to ask myself the question: do I want this to be sort of thing the average person might have a deeper awareness? At the same time that I would want to work towards acceptance, I have greatly benefited from the fact that ABDLism is so far on the fringe that most people would never expect it out of a person. Hence, if I get caught with a package of diapers in my room, my mom's first thought is going to be "he must be wetting the bed," not, "my son is an ABDL." The fact that it's just barely on other people's radars means that I have lot more wiggle room when it comes to hiding.
But on the other hand, I would want my child to live in a world where she would not have to fear rejection from her parents should she discover that she is an ABDL. And, as much as I wouldn't want my parents to know about my being a DL, I would still want to live in a world where I can speak openly about being one without having to fear being laughed at and marginalized.
Then, there's also the problem of outing myself in the process of being vocal about ABDLism. But if it's the only way get the message out to the rest of the world, it might just be the most virtuous thing an ABDL can do.
So what do you all think about the matter? All fantasies aside, would you actually be willing to make yourself more visible for the sake of making ABLDism more widely accepted? What are the merits and consequences you foresee in such an endeavor?