I am reading Ernest Becker's book, The Denial of Death. In it he offers a re-examination of Freudian psychology. On the subject of fetishism, he asserts all fetishes are a result of the castration complex. In our case, the diaper being the last object seen before a female vagina. I know it is hard to stomach, but I am interested in all of your opinions. Try not to attack Freud's persona too much, I know its hard , but we need to critically examine all of these origin theories for their possible therapeutic benefit.
Freud: "To put it plainly: the fetish is a substitute for the woman's (mother's) phallus which the little boy once believed in and does not wish to forego--we know why" -Freud "Fetishism", 1927, Collected papers, vol. 5. p. 199
[The author, Ernest Becker's commentary on the above quote]: " Note the utter assurance of that last phrase. The "reason" is that the female genitals prove the reality of castration and awaken the horror of it for oneself. The only way to triumph over this threat is to "give" the woman a phallus, however artificially or symbolically; and the fetish is precisely the "token of triumph over the threat of castration and a safeguard against it..." With it, the fetishist can proceed to have intercourse [Obviously an extreme case, but not all too common]. The fetish "saves the fetishist from being a homosexual by endowing women with the attribute which makes them acceptable as sexual objects." In other words, the fetish gives him the courage to be a man. Freud was so confident of his formulation that he said
"Probably no male human being is spared the terrifying shock of threatened castration at the sight of the female genitals... [Thus he concludes triumphantly:] Investigations into fetishism are to be recommended to all who still doubt the existence of the castration complex..." Ibid p.200, 201
From the book by: Becker, Ernest. The Denial of Death. Free Press: New York 1975
BTW it won a Pulitzer prize... let me know what you all think.