When your friends have a baby, do you have a hard time accepting that their attention will be taken away from you and given to a real baby, even though you never acted like a baby around them nor would you want to. I would never want to detract parental attention from a real infant, obviously, but when they talk about nappy changing etc, I feel really bitter to be stuck still changing my own. It's hard to describe why I feel like that. I sure don't mean any offence, I'm generally a kind-natured person, I just have a hard time adapting to the changed role of a friend especially as it touches some raw unresolved emotive elements of who I am, or currently am. I know I don't have to use nappies myself, but this would only serve to suppress the issue, rather than resolve anything. Anyone relate? Has anyone else felt unwanted negative feelings at their friends' happy news?
I will add that I have been able to speak openly and honestly with this friend, who knows I use nappies for emotional reasons and who has accepted my feelings and helped me understand them, without taking any offence. What a friend!