Well, since I joined this forum to figure out and come to terms with my diaper loving self, I might as well get a start on it. :P
First off, I have to say I'm a bit intimidated by the statistics. I once tried finding some kind of forum or group for recovered *B/DL's, and was surprised when I had no luck. Then I saw the wiki, and it seems like there's no documented case of someone successfully eliminating this aspect of themselves and maintaining a happy, healthy mental state. I'm not yet ready to admit that it's impossible, but I think that it's owed in large part to some of my biggest fears involving this particular "hobby."
For me, a lot of it comes down to fear of rejection. I don't want to lose friends or opportunities because someone finds out I like wearing diapers. While it's obviously not SUPER rare, it is still not a very common thing. But even more than friends and opportunities, I'm afraid that I'll never find a girl who will both accept me AND respect me at the same time. I'm afraid that the diapers will be seen as a sign of weakness despite my ability to function (and function well) in the mundane world. This is the primary reason I'm considering trying to rewrite this portion of my psyche - if I eliminate the aspect I fear will be rejected, then there's no chance that it will become a problem.
I realize that much of this comes down to confidence, which I'm still working on. I'm miles ahead of where I was before; in fact, my love of diapers is one of only a few points of contention left. I have integrated and accepted almost every other part of myself. This one, though, poses a special problem. I think the diapers are a big part of why I've never really pursued a relationship with a girl. In fact, my fear of rejection led me to try to be gay. It was only a few years ago that I finally realized that I would always desire a relationship with a girl, and it's only been recently that I've stopped trying to deny it (primarily because I was in a relationship with another guy, who is also into diapers, and who I still live with.)
However, it seems that a surprising number of the members here have been able to find relationships with people of the opposite sex who are pretty open to this kind of stuff. I would like to believe that the same possibility is open to me, but I have no idea about where or how to meet someone who would both be accepting (and even better, participatory) of diapers while having a healthy emotional and romantic relationship as well (meaning that diapers would not be the basis of the relationship, just a very nice addition to it). Am I inaccurate in my assessment that the majority of mundane girls would most likely find this hobby creepy at best, and disgusting at worst?
As for meeting someone through the community at large, that doesn't seem a very promising aspect either. For one, it's very likely that anyone I made a connection with would not live in my area, and long-distance relationships are hard (I know from experience.) Secondly, and even more importantly, there's generally a fairly large gender disparity in any *B/DL community. This, coupled with the unsavory actions of a few bad apples, have made it to where I'm afraid of even showing interest in a female member for fear of being seen as just another shallow horny guy just looking for a thrill.
TL;DR - My love of diapers is a major confidence-crusher when it comes to seeking a relationship, and I want to figure out if I'm better served by focusing my energies on looking for that needle in a haystack, or just trying to rewrite my psyche to eliminate the diaper-loving aspect and no longer having it as a point of worry.