She recently told me that it is a huge turn-off for her, just knowing. When I first shared this with her many years ago, she was very accepting, but made it clear that it wasn't something she was into. She has been passively accepting for many years, even suggestively pointing out items like Poise pads to me when we were out shopping. Her change in attitude has been gradual over many months, but she has finally made it plain. Apparently the deal breaker was when she had to sign for a plain package delivery which she knew was something DL. It was obvious that it pained her to tell me that it bothered her; she made a point out of telling me that she didn't want to take away something I enjoy. I think her greatest fear is that I'll be discovered by our kids (four from age 7 to 18). I told her that the decision was simple, if she didn't like it I'd make it go away. The problem is, as you all know, I cannot make it go away. I want to respect her sensibility, but at the same time I know that I cannot shed this affinity just like that.
I welcome your comments, suggestions, advice. Whaddayathink?