Ok, It has come to my attention far too often that there are a number of people on here that use their ab/bl as the #1 reason they do not have a significant other. I have so say that this is sad, and aggravating all at the same time.
One must understand that I am not a true AB/DL, but mealy a girlfriend of someone that is. I am in the world because I see that it is part of his life, and it makes him happy. So in that I am happy to be part of the world as well, though there are times a diaper is handy don’t get me wrong.
But you see that is just it, you should not be trying to find people in spite of your lifestyle. Sure count yourself luck if you find someone that is already within the world. But only in the same way a person would if they had any other “hobby” in common.
There are a few trick I would like to put out there to anyone that is willing to hear what it is that we are looking for and what makes us willing to learn about something we never considered as part of our life.
A. Be a nice person Simple in theory, but I find this is not all that common a practice.
B. Be a good friend. Is a person dose not want to be friends with you, there is little chase for more. Besides just because the person you are friends with is not someone you like, they may have friends also, and these details of you personality get passed on.
C. Take chances. You never know if the person you like is going to turn you down until you try.
D. Always treat the other person like they are important to you, do not forget birthdays, and the like. But also DO THINGS BECAUSE IT IS TUESDAY.
E. Listen. This is a relationship, they take work, and patience. You have to see what it is that the other person needs and feels.
F. Do not Force the issue of AB/DLism. Many people will have some issue with it at first, but keep in mind that if it is the ender of the relationship, the foundation was not their to start with. If the couple is strong enough and issue like this can be resolved. Think of it as trial by fire, if they love you, they will be willing to try to understand. Though you must also understand that there are going to be steps for them to acceptance. They may or may not make it all the way up the latter, but understanding is the key, without it there is no chance for love.
Now understand that very little of this had to do with you lifestyle. Unless you attraction of people is based on the ab/dl portion you are still only looking for someone to love, so do that. Work out the details as you go along. The key is believe in yourself.
If there is anything else that someone would like to add or questions about this please let me know. But understand I am mealy putting a girls point of view on things, along with an “outsiders” point of view.